Helanting leaned gently on my shoulder.

Although I like her strong, when the two of them are together, I prefer her gentleness.

She said: "I'm going to be too busy with so many things, I hope you can understand."

I said, "I can understand, but I can't have a phone call or a text message? I won't meet for ten days or half a month?"

Helanting said: "I don't know how to fall in love."

I said, "Okay, I understand very much. But if I look for you, you don't respond to me. What's the use of me looking for you?"

Although she became soft, I was still very angry.

What kind of love do you have? I no longer play with you and don’t go out to have an ambiguous contact with girls. But she doesn’t reply to my message every ten days or half a month. Can I continue to talk about it?

Don't know about love?

I don't miss me.

I gently pushed her away and left directly.

Go back to his dormitory.

What kind of bullshit love is this?

The two of them started talking, shouldn’t they be as close as a slight lace, and they were entangled every day, and the mountains and the world were together. Do they think that time flies too fast?

But after just a few days of talk, I was already so indifferent. What is the future?

What else can I talk about?

I thought, maybe she realized that she didn't like me as much as she thought, and then she had the attitude towards me.

But she just doesn't love me as much as I love her.

This is a fact.

Another point is that maybe after getting together, I found that I had no advantages that attracted her. Then, without the attraction, I would naturally be dispensable to me.

Just this attitude.

I still have to mention my own value. The more I am in the market, the more she cherishes me. In this way, if I call you, I will linger and leave. I will lose my value.

The more I think about it, the more uncomfortable I feel.

Too uncomfortable.

This love is so frustrating.

This reminds me of the fact that when I was in college and fell in love with Yu Jingjing, I was also very frustrated.

I say good morning every morning and good night every night. When I come back from a part-time job, I have to pack food for her and deliver it to the downstairs of the dormitory. Even if it is raining heavily or sunny or hot summer, I have to send gifts and red envelopes during the holidays. From time to time, she has to go out shopping and buy things, and it costs me all my money.

I remember that I am really stupid and able to make money. I was so awesome. Not only did I work part-time jobs and earn money to pay tuition and living expenses, I could also send money to my family and support my girlfriend.

Yu Jingjing, I am talking bad about her behind her back now. She is really so kind to me. She took my money to buy a mobile phone, an Apple phone, an Apple computer, and a new clothes. She was earned by a skirt of more than 700 yuan in two part-time jobs in a week. On her birthday, she called a large group of best friends and spent more than 3,000 yuan. Oh, what happened?

Her attitude towards me has never been lukewarm, and in front of her classmates, she never takes the initiative to say that I am her boyfriend.

It took her several days before she responded to me.

I was really stupid at that time. I thought I would get a response after giving everything. I remembered that song "Absolutely" infatuated. I would never understand that I would never force myself to fall in love with everything about you. You forced me to retreat my defense and quietly closed the door and counted my tears silently.

That's what I'm talking about now.

Later I realized that you should have a degree of effort and know how to stop losses in time.

But when you meet someone you truly love, you still know how to stop the damage?

It's like a brainless man who fell into the trap of beauty, who only knows how to treat her without thinking about rewards.

I know that Helanting is cautious in dealing with feelings and is slow to heat up, but this gives her time, so it is too hot too slowly.

What a romantic relationship, I am like a one-man show. I am in tears in the play and I am the one who gives me feelings, but she, Helanting, is too lazy to even reply to a message.

Even if I am a big man, don’t care too much about these things, but this doesn’t look like two people in love. Her friends and family don’t know that I’m in love with her. Even the people around me know that we’re in love unless they see it. But she doesn’t look like a girlfriend and eat, drink, or something with my friends.

My family asked her to come for dinner, but she was just hiding.

I feel particularly heartbroken when I think of Yu Jingjing treating me like this, especially when she cheated on her and found another man.

I was afraid as I walked with Helanting, and she suddenly said she didn't love her anymore and left. What should I do?

Yu Jingjing walked with someone else's man, and the pain that was like a knife cutting into my heart was bleeding, made me feel uncomfortable when I think about it now.

Of course, Helanting won’t cheat, I can believe in her character, but she doesn’t love her so much, and she may have separated from me. The pain is no less than the feeling Yu Jingjing gave me back then.

In love, as a man, of course, he desires the warmth, tenderness, love, and sex of a woman.

This is all very important, but Helanting has been rejecting me. If it was a normal relationship, how could this be?

With these depressions, I went to Liu Zhihui again. I felt that from Liu Zhihui, I could feel warmer, her understanding, and heart-to-heart talk.

Although Helanting is so good, if she is so cold to me, she doesn't look like a girlfriend at all. No matter how good she is, what does it have to do with me?

Liu Zhihui said to me: "In the relationship between men and women, there is a need for a balance point. If it is a pursuit, but it is a little unbalanced, you have to pay more. But you have now determined the relationship. If in a relationship, only one party will give, and it will give without reservation, but the other party will not respond, then the relationship has completely lost balance. Without the fulcrum, your relationship is no longer equal. She is very strong, that is because she is strong in work and career. You can kneel down on her in career. She is your superior and she takes you, but the relationship is equal. Only you are giving and you will maintain this relationship. It will be difficult for you to go on."

I asked, "I wonder why it turned out like this. Doesn't she love me?"

Liu Zhihui said: "Maybe she is used to others being so kind to her. You also know that your Helanting is different from an ordinary woman. It is still difficult for me to see through her."

I said, "It's easy to see through me, right?"

Liu Zhihui said: "A lot of your stuff is written on your face, she won't."

Speaking of which, Helanting's cunning is indeed much deeper than me.

psychology?

She naturally has studied this kind of pediatrics.

I asked, "Don't she loves me?"

Liu Zhihui said: "If you don't love, you won't be together. If you understand her personality, she won't start easily, let alone end easily."

I breathed a sigh of relief and said, "Since this is the case, I will feel more at ease, but I can't understand why she treated me like this. Is it just because I am used to being good to others to her?"

Liu Zhihui said: "You can change the way you get along."

I asked, "What's the way to get along?"

Liu Zhihui said: "You don't give her everything unconditionally. Don't always keep your relationship. You can care about her and be kind to her, but don't continue to give without getting a response. This will not make you too cold and ruthless. At least let her know that no one wants to give without getting a reward so unconditionally. If you go on, you will lose yourself. If you lose yourself, you will become unloved yourself. Will she love you like this?"

I nodded.

Liu Zhihui is right.

I am still the same as myself before. I have changed so much for Helanting. Many times, I will completely refuse the female friends and colleagues who ask me for dinner. This is completely unnecessary. After all, it is just a social event, and I have contacted my friends. I have not betrayed her and I have not betrayed her. Why do I have to bind myself so much?

Liu Zhihui made me know how to stop loss. I don’t just give blindly. If I can’t get it, I have to continue.

Let Helanting understand that all my efforts are not for granted. Since I am going to maintain this relationship, she just collects them blindly, so she might as well stop giving.

In love, only when the two work together can they truly participate in this love and feel the presence of each other in their hearts, rather than just saying that it is as simple as having you in my heart. Only when the two work hard to manage each other can they go further together.

I asked, "If I give but can't get a response. Just like now, if I don't answer the phone or reply to the message, I will not look for her for ten days or half a month, then I won't look for her anymore and she won't look for me anymore. What should I do?"

Liu Zhihui smiled: "What a simple solution."

I asked, "What method?"

Liu Zhihui said, "Just look for me."

What do you mean?

What this means is that if Helanting doesn't respond and ignores me, then I might as well ignore her and go to someone else or another woman.

Of course, Liu Zhihui was joking with me, but this joke is a bit ambiguous.

I asked, "Let's find you, right?"

Liu Zhihui said: "It's okay to find someone else."

She was also ambiguous in her words, and she didn't understand whether she was serious or joking.

Look at Liu Zhihui's dazzling appearance, she is not inferior to Helanting at all. In fact, it is good to be with her, and it is always better than me to guard a cold and cold beauty. What is that? What is it about to be in love?

I couldn't help but feel moved.

However, whether it is Helanting or Liu Zhihui, I cannot seize the position of initiative in love. One has a cold personality that can completely control his emotions, and the other is too powerful to see through people's hearts and can play around with me.

Besides, I and Helanting have already gone on, so how can I change it just by saying that?

Okay, then I'll go on a walk with Helanting for the time being. If it really doesn't work, then I can only let go.
Chapter completed!