Engagement, also known as engagement, is usually an engagement ceremony before marriage: engagement letters, exchange of gifts, or establishing a matchmaker, etc. However, according to the current laws of our country, engagement is not a necessary procedure before marriage. A marriage without engagement will not lose its effectiveness.

The function of an engagement is to determine the marriage relationship between the two parties in a customary manner and gain social recognition and supervision. Once a man and a woman are formally engaged, both men and women must bear certain moral responsibilities for this relationship, and the termination of the engagement is no longer a casual matter.

If a marriage change occurs, it will be negotiated by both parties or mediated by outsiders. If the negotiation and mediation fail, the engagement should generally be announced publicly through certain occasions or published in a newspaper. Otherwise, it will be regarded as an immoral act. If an economic dispute over giving a bride gift occurs and fails to mediate after negotiation, you can "subsidize" the court.

There are also some small customs in the city's engagement. Since the degree of independent marriage between men and women is very high, in order to prevent their parents from meeting their engagement before announcing their engagement plan, when the two feel that their relationship will eventually develop into marriage, they arrange to meet with their parents.

If there is no chance for parents to see their fiancé or fiancée due to geographical relationships, then the two of them will mention their special relationship to their family by phone, letter or email before informing them of their engagement.

The future groom explains his life plan and family-building arrangements to the future wife's parents. This conversation is always an important proof of the groom's respect for the bride's parents. A kind of etiquette that cannot be ignored, which is quite a Western proposal.

Engagement is a social ritual. There is an engagement ceremony, which tells the public that the couple has a relationship and is ready to enter the marriage stage. The traditional engagement ceremony in East Asia is called Nace and Nazheng, which is determined below. Modern times are mostly simplified to only retain Nazheng.

Men and women enter into engagement: an agreement before marriage, a marriage agreement between men and women is entered into.

In the past, the marriages of young Han people were mostly arranged by their parents, most of which were engaged to marry from childhood, and some even made marriages, that is, before the children were born, the parents of both parties established a marriage relationship for them.

The same surname does not marry: that is, the same surname does not marry each other, which began in the early Western Zhou Dynasty. It was a rule left behind by the Zhou people when the extramarital marriage was implemented. During the Spring and Autumn Period, people had further understanding of the deformity and infertility of offspring, but marriages with the same surname still occurred frequently among nobles.

After the Warring States Period, the surnames were taken as the surname. After the Han Dynasty, the surnames were not divided, so there was often many cases of marriages between the same surname. In the Tang Dynasty, marriages between the same surnames were followed by the ancient system. It was prohibited. The Tang Dynasty was a rule of the Tang Dynasty. The same surname was divorced by the Tang Dynasty.

During the Ming and Qing dynasties, the region was larger and the population was large. It had long become a region-based society, replacing the clans that were originally based on blood ties. Therefore, the "Ming Laws" and the "Qing Laws" were divided into the same surname and the same clan were two. The surface stipulates that both were prohibited from intermarriage, but in fact, they could also get married with different clans. In the late Qing Dynasty, the rules were compiled to merge the same surname and relatives without marriage. Only marriages were prohibited from being married to the same clan.

Before getting engaged, the matchmaker should be asked to go to the girl's house to propose. When getting engaged, the man will give the woman some property as a "income". When getting married, the woman will also bring a lot of property to the man, called "dow".

In modern society, engagement is a legal act of contract, which is an identity contract. This identity contract has several characteristics:

1. The conclusion of an engagement shall not be made, otherwise it will not take legal effect; that is, the engagement must be established only if both men and women agree to each other.

2. Only those with legal engagement ability can engage in engagement. The legal definition of engagement ability is based on age: a man is over 17 years old and a woman is over 15 years old. If a marriage contract is violated and the contract is not invalid, the parties or legal representatives may request revocation from the court.

Because minors under the age of twenty must obtain the consent of their legal representative.

3. The engagement shall not be enforced. Although the engagement should be followed, it shall also be in accordance with the wishes of both parties. If one party cannot perform it, it cannot be enforced.

Engagement is also known as "Wending", formerly known as "Naji" and "Nazheng". Although engagement is not as complicated as marriage, traditional customs still attach great importance to it. Both men and women need to prepare several gifts. The process is as follows:

The groom first finished the family sacrifice at home, and then took the same car with the matchmaker to the woman's house to marry him. After getting off the car and entering the door, the red envelope could not be escaped!

The tribute official: commonly known as "Mr. Box", is specially responsible for gift-giving and hiring. The tribute official must control the number of people (compose into even numbers), vehicles (six or twelve units), the tribute fee (even numbers and packaged properly in red paper), and six gifts.

Family Festival: Before leaving for the woman's house, the man will perform a ceremony for ancestor worship at home. At this time, the "boxed cakes" or big cakes used by the carriage will be offered to the ancestors and ancestors. They will go to a virgin house to hire him and ask the ancestors to bless this marriage with a happy and happy life.

Departure: After the family ceremony, the tribute officer is responsible for carrying all betrothal gifts into the car, and the groom and the matchmaker take the same ride to the girl's house.

Red envelope: In addition to handling the number of people, cars, and betrothal gifts before departure, the tribute officer must also remind the groom to prepare more red envelopes. For example, the uncle who came to open the groom's car door, "press the table", and the six relatives who accompanied him must prepare a bride's meeting gift, a new friend of the woman holding a wash water, and a matchmaker's gift.

How to hire a person after life: the so-called "eat rice fragrance and marry a good son-in-law", so there must be rice fragrance cakes in the six rituals.

The meaning of preparing four-color sugar: Four-color sugar symbolizes the sweetness of newcomers and the meaning of old age.

The betrothal gift not only represents the man's wishes to repay the woman's parents, but also expresses his hard work to raise the newlywed bride who is about to pass the family, but also represents the man's face. Therefore, most of them are willing to make a splendid and decent purchase, and each betrothal gift also contains the symbolic meaning of seeking good luck and increasing perfection.

The betrothal gift is usually divided into six simple gifts or twelve gifts. The amount of the betrothal gifts is arranged according to the personal budget. At the same time, it is better to ask the matchmaker to ask the woman's parents for advice and ask the woman's opinions, and have a show of the best of both worlds.

Men and women are officially on the stage

It's a thunderbolt! The firecrackers sounded, and the man whom he married arrived! He would worship his ancestors and serve tea on that day. It was not until the ring holding hands was worn until the white hair was white.

How does the woman return the gift after the gift

Chinese people have always paid attention to "reciting etiquette". After the man gives a big gift, the woman naturally has to prepare a return gift, so the man cannot return empty-handed.

The agenda of engagement: my country has always advocated etiquette. Traditional wedding customs are based on the Zhou rituals. There are six rituals such as Naga, Naga, Naga, Naga, and Anhui, and Hehe.

Nacai: In ancient times, the lord of marriage ceremony took a pre-selection of women, and used geese as a meeting ceremony, which made the matchmaker pay homage to his daughter, and now it is called "proposal of marriage."

Ask for the name: The man asked the woman's name and date of birth, and it was a good omen, and now it is called "Entertain Bazi"

Najib: If the name is a good omen, the matchmaker will send a message to him, which is now called "Xiao Ding".

Na Zheng: This ceremony mainly involves giving deposits, cakes and various decorations and offerings as gifts for formal appointments. It is now called "Da Ding".

Request date: commonly known as giving away the sun, the man's committee requests the day to choose auspicious day and good time, and asks the matchmaker to ask for opinions from the daughter's family, so it is also called "begging for the sun".

Welcoming: The wedding date is determined. The groom takes a cart and the wedding team is full of firecrackers and drums. He goes to his daughter's house to welcome the bride and get married.

From the above, we can see that the first five rites of the "Six Etiquettes" belong to the category of engagement. This wedding process lasted for more than 2,000 years in my country.

With the progress of the times, people's thoughts are liberated, and free love has replaced parents' arrangements. Engagement ceremony is already optional and no longer an indispensable part of marriage. Today's engagement ceremony may be called "formal meeting between parents of both parties".

Zhao Chaogang wanted to handle his engagement ceremony like in ancient times. This not only made him value Pingping and Jingjing very much, so that Pingping and Jingjing's relatives were more satisfied with him, but also a rare and beautiful memory for Pingping and Jingjing.

For women, the most important engagement and wedding ceremony in their lives is definitely the most important part of their memories, so for their wives, Zhao Chaogang did not want to feel wronged, and Zhao Chaogang wanted to give them the most unforgettable engagement ceremony.

However, society has improved a lot after all, so Zhao Chaogang gave up some inappropriate things at the engagement ceremony, otherwise the engagement ceremony would be unsatisfactory, otherwise it would be less beautiful.

Li Bin and Liu Mingxin were very satisfied with Zhao Chaogang's desire to organize the engagement ceremony between him and Pingping and Jingjing in a large manner, because the more grand the engagement ceremony held by Zhao Chaogang was, it means that the more important it was to Zhao Chaogang's heart. In this way, they would be relieved by parents.

However, because Zhao Chaogang and Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's engagement were too sensational, if it was really spread, with Liu Jingjing's current identity, not only Zhao Chaogang will have a headache at that time, but even Liu Mingxin and Li Bin's family will have a headache. Therefore, this time, at the engagement ceremony in Zhao Chaogang's hometown, Liu Mingxin and other relatives of Li Bin's family were not present, only Li Bin and Liu Mingxin and Liu Mingxin and his wife.

Although in this case, Pingping and Jingjing's relatives seem to have fewer, there is nothing we can do about it.

What's more, Zhao Chaogang will return to Anxi City and hold an engagement ceremony with Pingping and Jingjing respectively. At that time, Pingping and Jingjing's relatives will be all present, so there will be explanations.

Of course, Zhao Chaogang has discussed these things with his parents, and Zhao Qiang and his wife do not object to Zhao Chaogang doing this. Since Pingping and Jingjing have followed their son, these things are what they deserve. (To be continued...)

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