Chapter 1302 open your heart
"Two ladies, little boys are here!" Before he could get into the new house, Zhao Chaogang's words came to Li Liping, Liu Jingjing's ears, and then a sound of opening the door came, and Zhao Chaogang walked into the new house.
Obviously, today's wedding made Zhao Chaogang very excited, otherwise, Zhao Chaogang would have lost such a ruthless attitude.
"Really, even if there are no one in the new house now, please be careful if you speak. Your son is still here! I don't want my son to be damaged by you. If my son is damaged by you in the future, let's see how I deal with you."
As soon as Zhao Chaogang entered the door, Li Liping started talking about him. Li Liping attached great importance to the children in her belly. Now Zhao Chaogang's status has dropped to second place in her mind, and the number one ranks first is the children in her belly.
Therefore, even if it is a little frivolous, Li Liping doesn't want her son to hear it, so as not to have a bad impact on him.
"Ah?! Yes, yes, my son is still here, so he can't hear his frivolous words, so he should be beaten!"
After Zhao Chaogang said that, he pretended to slap his face a few times. Obviously, Zhao Chaogang also attaches great importance to the child in Li Liping's belly and wants to give him the best environment.
"Pingping, Jingjing, you married me at the same time today, and you are wronged. If it weren't for my greed, you would have had a better marriage. Pingping, Jingjing, I will treat you well in the future."
Zhao Chaogang walked forward and grabbed Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's hands at the same time. He looked at them sincerely and made his first vow after marriage, his vow to Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's future life. This made Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's hearts very warm.
"Chaogang, we are not wronged. We are very happy to be able to marry you. Although your love was shared by Jingjing and I at the same time, we did not feel any wronged.
Because Chao Gang, you are so good to me and Jingjing. We are very harmonious with each other, so we are not wronged. We are actually very happy. Jingjing, don’t you think so?"
When Li Liping said these words, her eyes were full of sincerity, and it was obvious that these words were also Li Liping's true words.
To be honest, Li Liping is already very happy to be able to marry Zhao Chaogang. Zhao Chaogang's current identity as a cultivator is really under great pressure to Li Liping, which makes Li Liping feel ashamed. However, now that Zhao Chaogang has married two women at once, the pressure in her heart has suddenly become much smaller for Li Liping.
"Well, Sister Pingping is right. Chao Gang, in fact, we can marry you. We already feel very happy. You should know that Chao Gang is the only cultivator on earth. According to the traditions of the cultivation world, Chao Gang has already married us two ordinary women as wives, and you have already had a good share.
Besides, Sister Pingping and I marry you to Chaogang. You did not force us, but we agreed to it ourselves. So, Chaogang, don’t apologize anymore, say some very strange words, we are very willing to marry you, and we are also very happy. Chaogang, I love you!"
Liu Jingjing said emotionally, and leaned her head gently on Zhao Chaogang's shoulder. Seeing Liu Jingjing's movements, Li Liping on the side also gently leaned her head on Zhao Chaogang's shoulder.
At this time, Zhao Chaogang also stretched out his hands and hugged Li Liping and Liu Jingjing tightly in his arms. His eyes were filled with gentleness and Li Liping. Liu Jingjing looked at each other. He wanted to convey his love to Li Liping and Liu Jingjing through his eyes. The new house was instantly filled with warmth.........
Time may have passed ten minutes, half an hour, or just one hour. Anyway, Zhao Chaogang, Li Liping, and Liu Jingjing are still hugging each other, and they don’t want to break the warm atmosphere. However, soon, a hungry cry broke the warm atmosphere. This was the sound of Li Liping’s hungryness.
Li Liping is pregnant now, I believe everyone knows that pregnant women are prone to hunger because there is a baby in her belly. So, although Li Liping doesn't want to break the warm atmosphere, her belly begins to protest, and the originally warm atmosphere in the new house was broken.
"Hehe...!" After hearing the hungry cry in Li Liping's stomach, Liu Jingjing laughed softly. Of course, this laugh did not include any jokes. This laugh was just a simple laugh.
"Chao Gang, I'm hungry now. From the beginning of the wedding to now, I have never eaten well. I've been blocking my wine for Sister Pingping, and you are still blocking the wine. So, Chao Gang, you're going to get some food now. Sister Pingping and I want to eat now. Especially Sister Pingping's belly has children, so I can't be hungry. Sister Pingping, do you think so?"
Liu Jingjing smiled, but she still stood up in time to help Li Liping relieve her. Since we will live with the same man in the same room from now on, it is natural to take care of each other. Liu Jingjing quickly put her position in the right place.
"Haha, I'm really negligent. OK, I'll prepare some food now. I can't let my Pingping, Jingjing, and my son be hungry. Pingping, Jingjing, you're waiting here, I'll be back soon." Zhao Chaogang hurried out. He didn't want his wife. The child was hungry on the night of his wedding. This was too unlucky.
"Jingjing, thank you for helping me out, otherwise it would have been a bit embarrassing just now!" Zhao Chaogang just went out, and Li Liping thanked Liu Jingjing. If it weren't for Liu Jingjing's rescue, Li Liping would have felt very embarrassed.
"Sister Pingping, what are you talking about? We are a family now, so there is no need to be so polite. Besides, there is no embarrassment in the family. Sister Pingping, you can't say such things anymore."
"Haha, it's mine, it's not. I will never make the same mistake again in the future. Jingjing, you are right. From today on, we are a real family. In the future, we should work together to take good care of this family. If we are humble when we are together and do not treat each other as real family, this will only cause problems in this family. Jingjing, from now on, let us work together to build this family! Work together for the happiness of this family!"
"Well, Sister Pingping. Jingjing knows that for the happiness of this family, Jingjing will do her best!"
Liu Jingjing nodded her head very hard, her eyes full of sincere expressions. Obviously, Liu Jingjing's words just now were all her true words.
From this moment on, Li Liping and Liu Jingjing have truly opened their hearts to each other. From now on, they have indeed worked together to build the warmth of this home, making this home full of warmth from now on.........
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"Well, it's really delicious. The things made by Chaogang are the best!" Liu Jingjing was eating the food made by Zhao Chaogang in big mouthfuls, while constantly praising the taste of the things made by Zhao Chaogang.
"Well, indeed, Jingjing is right. The things made by Asahiro really taste very good, well, delicious...!"
Half an hour ago, Liu Jingjing and Li Liping opened their hearts to each other. Therefore, when Liu Jingjing and Li Liping were eating, they felt that the food today tasted particularly good, which made Zhao Chaogang on the side taste the food in front of him in confusion. However, he found that the taste of the food was still the same and had not changed much!
This made Zhao Chaogang very confused about Pingping and Jingjing's current reaction. In the end, after Zhao Chaogang couldn't figure it out, he could only treat this as Pingping and Jingjing's happy heart because they got married today.
It took a full ten minutes for Li Liping and Liu Jingjing to stop the chopsticks in their hands. At this time, the food on the table was almost wiped out. It seems that Li Liping and Liu Jingjing were indeed very hungry, otherwise, they would not have such a good appetite.
Even Zhao Chaogang, who was not very hungry on the other hand, couldn't help but eat some after seeing Li Liping and Liu Jingjing's greedy eating behavior. It can be seen that good appetites can be contagious to each other.
"Pingping, Jingjing, we will live together from today on. Maybe we will have such and such contradictions in the middle. After all, everyone's thoughts are different. But what I want to tell you is that even if we have great contradictions in the process of getting along, I hope that at that time, we can sit down calmly and resolve this contradiction.
Don’t make noise or even fight because of this. In this way, the final result of our family will only be a ruin.
I am here to promise you solemnly that when dealing with matters at home in the future, I will definitely deal with problems based on fairness and justice, and will never be biased towards anyone.
I do this, in fact, I hope that the home can be full of warmth. Home is the harbor of our hearts. Therefore, we need to do our best to maintain this harbor of our hearts. Pingping, Jingjing, do you think so?"
After packing up the bowls and chopsticks on the dining table, Zhao Chaogang directly pulled Li Liping, Liu Jingjing sat down, and said something that was announced.
In the future, three people live under the same roof. Pingping and Jingjing have different ideas. When the time comes, there will definitely be conflicts between Pingping and Jingjing. At that time, quarrels are inevitable.
So, now Zhao Chaogang directly raised the topic, and the two sides made an announcement to discuss each other. In this way, it would be better for everyone's life together in the future. Zhao Chaogang did this in fact to make this family good.
Unfortunately, Zhao Chaogang's actions were in vain, because Li Liping and Liu Jingjing had already opened their hearts to each other.
"Hehe... Chaogang, don't worry, Sister Pingping and I have already told each other that we have cleared each other. In the future, we will make the greatest efforts for the warmth of this home. We will build this home well. Chaogang. We have this confidence!"
"Well, Chao Gang, don't worry. You will leave the family affairs to me and Jing Jing in the future. We will run this family well and will not disappoint Chao Gang, or make you embarrassed!"
Li Liping stretched out her hands, held Zhao Chaogang's right hand, and snatched it very hard. To show that they were definitely not talking about what they said just now.
"Haha. I'll be relieved if this happens!" Zhao Chaogang showed a happy smile on his face. Then, he directly took Li Liping and Liu Jingjing into his arms and said gently: "Pingping. Jingjing. You are really my treasures, I love you!"
"Chao Gang, I love you too..."
"Chao Gang, I love you too..."
Li Liping and Liu Jingjing answered in unison, and the new house was once again filled with the warmth of love...!
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Time soon came the third day. At this time, it was time to go back to the door. Zhao Chaogang, Li Liping, and Liu Jingjing got up early in the morning and started preparing gifts to return to the door.
Today, when we go back to the door, Zhao Chaogang went to Li Liping's house with Li Liping first, and then went to Liu Jingjing's house with Liu Jingjing. Li Liping is the eldest sister, so when we go back to the door, Zhao Chaogang went to Li Liping's house first.
Liu Jingjing didn't say anything about Zhao Chaogang's arrangement. She put her position very well. Since she is now a sister, she must abide by some things that her sister should abide by.
On the night of the wedding, since she had opened her mind to each other with Sister Pingping, she had to make some sacrifices in some matters. For this family and for the Chaogang, Liu Jingjing was willing to sacrifice such a sacrifice!
Of course, the sacrifice that Liu Jingjing made was not in vain. After seeing Liu Jingjing being so humble and sensible, Li Liping directly discussed with Zhao Chaogang and let Zhao Chaogang stay overnight at Liu Jingjing's house tonight to make up for Liu Jingjing's "sacrifice".
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Huimen is also known as Guining, a traditional Han marriage custom. It refers to the first time a woman returns to her parents’ home to visit relatives after getting married. The newlywed couple returns to their parents’ home after the third day of marriage. For the bride, she returns to her parents’ home after becoming a wife.
According to the Han folk custom, after a woman gets married, she returns to her parents’ home for the first time to visit her relatives. The person who walks with her son-in-law is called a double return home.
The second chapter of the Anonymous Yuan Dynasty’s “Fighting Witnesses Crossing the River”: “When I return to the moon, I will meet my mother and I have something to say.” Chapter 108 of “Dream of Red Mansions”: “One day, Shi Xiangyun got married and returned to the family and came to Jia Mu to pay tribute.”
Returning to the house is also called "Gui Ning", which means "returning to the parents' home". The marriage customs of the Han nationality. Returning to the house is also the first time a newlywed couple returns to their parents' home to visit relatives in the true sense. The couple is both paired up and visiting the woman's parents is naturally an indispensable etiquette.
At this time, when the groom sees his father-in-law and mother-in-law, he should change his words to father and mother, and let the bride and parents see the happy marriage of the two.
The Yue family also has to hold a banquet to entertain the new son-in-law. At this time, the new son-in-law still has to offer the "returning gift" and "returning money" to the parents-in-law, and bring different gifts according to different places.
Some people bring a rooster and take "lucky and good luck", eggs, noodles and other items. When they arrive at the woman's house, they will have to stay for a few days before they can return.
The more common ones are oranges, apples, bananas, wine, etc., and the styles are mostly unfixed, but do not return to the door to be single, which must be even, meaning that the couple is in pairs and a hundred years of combination, and the odd number is unlucky.
After the first Spring Festival, the groom will also bring gifts with his wife and go to "worship the New Year" to his father-in-law and mother-in-law on the second day of the first lunar month. Elders usually hold banquets and give rewards to the newcomers when they return home.
That is, after the marriage, the son-in-law will return to his parents' home with the bride to visit his wife's parents and relatives. The ceremony of becoming a son-in-law who has been welcomed by his parents and relatives is completed at this point, which means to go home to visit his parents after marriage.
Later generations had different names. In the Song Dynasty, it was called "Baimen"; in the Qing Dynasty, it was called "Shuanghuimen"; in the south, it was called "Meeting relatives", in some areas of Hebei, it was called "Songshou" and in Hangzhou, it was called "Huilang".
In modern times, it is usually the third day after marriage, also known as the "Three Dynasties Returning the Door". Newly married couples may return on the same day or stay for several days. If they are kept, they will not stay in the same room.
When returning to the family, the daughter and her son-in-law returned to her daughter's house and recognized her family to worship her. The time for returning to the family varies from place to place. In ancient times, it was the third day of the marriage, the sixth day, the seventh day, the eighth day, and the nineth day, and there were also full moons to visit her family. There was a custom of returning to the family in the Spring and Autumn Period, and the descendants have been following it to this day.
Since "returning to the door" is a wedding couple returning to the door together, it is called "double returning to the door", which takes the auspicious meaning of pairs.
When returning to the door, the old custom stipulates that the bride walks in front and when returning to the man's house, the groom walks in front because this time, the daughter returns to the house for the first time after she has married, and some are also called "the first trip".
After the "double return door", it is generally not allowed to stay at the Yue family. You must return to the man's house on the same day, because there was a custom of not having a room for a month when newlyweds were newlyweds.
Traditional wedding customs: After three days of marriage, the bride will go back to her parents' home with her groom, also known as "returning to the door", which is an indispensable etiquette.
The elderly in the bride's family attach great importance to returning home for three days, so the groom must be prepared in terms of innate theory, both in terms of thought and in terms of gifts, and strive to leave a happy impression on his father-in-law and mother-in-law.
When buying gifts that the bride’s elderly like, there are generally four gifts, such as tobacco, alcohol, sugar, health products, etc.
Returning to the house is the last ceremony of the marriage. The daughter does not forget the gift of parenting, and the son-in-law thanks the parents-in-law and the newlyweds for their affection and beauty. Generally, the daughter's family holds a banquet for entertaining the new son-in-law. The new son-in-law attends the seat and the elders of the female tribe accompany the drink. The female in-law holds a Chinese banquet to entertain the new son-in-law. This is the return banquet.
Of course, some taboos should be paid attention to when going back to the door: if the groom and the bride go back to their parents' home together, then there are different taboos for their stay in their parents' home. Among the Han and Manchus, there are customs that newlywed couples are not allowed to have sex when they go back to their parents' home.
The Manchus allowed their son-in-law to live in the West Kang, and other guests were not allowed to live in the West Kang, but girls and son-in-law were not allowed to live together. It is said that newlyweds would suffer from the family's family's family. This is also caused by the concept of unclean sexual behavior and blasphemy.
The Han people often think that women always suffer losses in matters between men and women. For this reason, the girl always feels a little suppressed in her psychology. Besides, if her parents’ family does not have the same bloodline, how can she provide a place for her family to pass on the family? If she is really pregnant at her parents’ family, wouldn’t she bring her “people power” and “wealth power” to her parents’ family? Her parents’ family will definitely decline because of this.
Therefore, it is absolutely forbidden for young couples to have sex at their parents' home. This is the idea under this custom.
However, among the Han people, there are many places where newlyweds do not prohibit newlyweds from sleeping in their parents' homes. Sometimes, these two completely different customs coexist in the same county, for example, in Lin County, Henan, these two customs exist at the same time.
The meaning of returning home customs: According to the customs and customs of our country, after three days of marriage, the bride will go back to her parents' home with her groom, also known as "returning home", which is an indispensable etiquette.
The elderly in the bride's family attach great importance to returning home for three days, so the groom must be prepared in terms of innate theory, both in terms of thought and in terms of gifts, and strive to leave a happy impression on his father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Prepare the gifts in advance and buy gifts that the elderly in the bride’s house like. There are usually four gifts. The return door usually leaves at 9:00 a.m. The bride and groom should carefully decorate and dress up like attending the wedding, and maintain the beautiful and handsome image at the wedding.
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When returning to the parents' home, the bride and groom should first greet the elderly. At this time, the groom should change his words and call his parents-in-law father and mother like the bride. He should be natural and kind, and treat relatives, friends and neighbors with kindness. He should also show kindness and enthusiasm, be polite, greet people first and treat them with courtesy.
When dining, the bride should accompany the groom to toast his parents, relatives, friends and neighbors one by one, and thank everyone for their blessings for their wedding. After dinner, don’t rush to go home. You should chat with your parents for a while, listen to their teachings, and then say goodbye to your home. You should take the initiative to invite two elderly people and brothers and sisters to visit your home, or invite relatives, friends and neighbors.
In general, returning home is an indispensable procedure for us Chinese when we get married, and it is also a good inheritance of our Chinese for our marriage. Such inheritance is definitely worthy of our inheritance and development! (To be continued, please search for Astronomy, novels are better, updated and faster!
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