After laughing, she said, "Back to the point, all human uneasiness can be summarized as fear. There are two ways to eliminate fear. First of all, it is to weaken the fear itself. You have inferiority complex, right?"

I smiled embarrassedly and said, "How do you know this?"

After asking this question, I felt stupid. What kind of person is Liu Zhihui? How could I not see it?

"The mentality of inferiority complex stems from insufficient self-knowledge, family economic factors, social and cultural factors, growth experience and other factors. In summary, it means that you feel that you are not as good as others in these aspects. Everyone always knows themselves with others as a mirror. If others evaluate themselves too low, especially those with more authoritative evaluations, it will affect their understanding of themselves, thus evaluating themselves too low, and creating inferiority complex. Disagree with their self-image, they feel that they are not good. Or they doubt their abilities, their sense of superiority has decreased or even disappeared after entering society, and they have no capital to win respect from others, so they have a strong sense of loss, and the original sense of superiority suddenly becomes inferiority complex. Everyone will have inferiority complex in some aspects. Inferiority complex is a complex feeling that cannot help themselves and weakness.

Feeling. People with inferiority complex despise themselves and think that they cannot catch up with others. However, inferiority complex can be eliminated by adjusting their understanding, enhancing self-confidence and giving support. Simply put, all human uneasiness is due to fear, including inferiority complex. There are two ways to eliminate fear. First, it is to face fear directly and weaken fear itself. You are a smart person and have also studied psychology. You know that you have inferiority complex, so your inferiority complex is not very serious. I guess your inferiority complex may be because your family situation has not been as good as others since childhood. You should be a poor child in the countryside. You think you have no money, are afraid that others will look down on you, and even more afraid that rich beautiful city girls will look down on you. Isn't it?" She is like a light machine that can analyze people's hearts, which can see people's hearts clearly.

I lowered my head and said embarrassedly: "You know all this."

"As I said just now, the first way to eliminate fear is to weaken fear. Weaking fear is to face fear and strengthen your resistance to fear, just like letting you face your inferiority complex. The second way to eliminate fear is to enhance the courage and confidence when facing fear. In these aspects, you need to understand what the greatest need for instincts of psychological patients is. If her greatest spiritual pillar is her family, then you have to guide her, and her family is waiting for her. What you need is the need for others to affirm you, and I will affirm you. This enhances your courage and confidence. Did you just now in front of me, and was the feeling of inferiority complex that was so strong before entering the door and when I saw me the previous few times?"

I suddenly realized: "Hey, hey! You are such a god!"

"I am not a god, I am just an ordinary psychology student. For example, your inferiority complex will cause you many negative emotions, such as shyness, anxiety, guilt, depression, disappointment, etc. The clearest way to guide is to suggest. The suggestion method. The suggestion method is a method that individuals can use positive hints, encouragement, and help. Human self-evaluation is actually a suggestive effect of people on themselves. It has a great relationship with people's behavior. The negative self

Implications lead to negative behaviors, while positive hints lead to positive actions. Implications should be given to them that everyone’s intelligence is not too different, and you will definitely do what others can do. She must always believe that I can do it, and I can do it well. If she succeeds, her self-confidence is strengthened and she fails, and she should not be discouraged. You might as well tell yourself that victory or defeat is common in military affairs. Take your time and I will come up with a solution. That is, I should be given a solution. I should always imply that they know that life is good and they are very strong."

She said a little thirsty, then picked up the cup and took a sip of water.

Then he said to me: "Here, I don't have any other cups for you. If you don't dislike me, you can wash my cup."

"No, no, I'm thirsty. But it's okay." I wanted to be polite and say I was not thirsty, but in front of her, it would be better to let go of myself than to hide myself. Anyway, she could see it all.

"Then when I encounter female prisoners who ask me psychological problems, I will follow your method and hint them to let them know that life is good and that they are very powerful. Let them face fear, eliminate fear, and increase confidence and courage. Thank you, for helping me, and may also help many female prisoners." I said.

"Do your best to do your best. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, and don't blame yourself too much." She comforted me and said.

"good."

"You should go back. I think the person who comes with you should be very nervous. Maybe in two minutes, she will come up and knock on the door." She said.

"How do you know?" I asked.

"I just heard you talking to a female discipline manager downstairs and said that you had been up for half an hour, afraid that the leader would know that if it was too long, he would blame her."

I looked at the watch and said, "It's only ten minutes left to half an hour."

She picked up the cup and said quietly: "The female discipliners have been severely punished in this prison with a strict guard system. She should be extremely nervous at this time."

I thought to myself, you are a god, I don’t believe that Xu Nan’s wife would be anxious. I guess she has gone to other places now.

"Okay, then I'll leave first. Thank you. I guess I'll come to you anytime in the future. Would you mind?" I stood up and said.

"Of course you mind?" she said.

"Oh, okay."

"But I hope you will come." She smiled softly.

I also laughed: "You are quite interesting. Hey, can we make friends?"

"I'm just a female prisoner," she said calmly.

"Who minds those! I don't."

"I am thankful to Jian Jian, but if others ask you and me about you, you can just say that we will talk about psychology. Don't say it too deeply, I don't want others to bother you." She said politely.

"Okay, there's no problem Teacher Liu. Let's go, don't miss me too much." I was playing poor with her.

"goodbye."

Before leaving, I suddenly had a question I wanted to ask, and turned around and asked: "Teacher Liu."

"Hmm?" She raised her head gently, her eyebrows and eyes shining brightly.

"You just told me that humans have fifteen instincts, and they also said that Freud said he was the first, and I also discovered this. The female prisoners who have been detained for many years were going to pounce on me like hungry wolves and rabbits when they saw me. I would like to ask, Teacher Liu, do you have any needs in this regard?" I asked with a smile on my face.

I have already made up my mind. Once she gets angry or something, I will open the door and run away immediately.

After hearing this, she was still calm and quiet, saying, "The id is the biological instinct part of the personality, such as the sexual impulse when eating and sleeping. You can simply understand it as a primitive collection. I have not escaped from the constraints of the id, so of course there will be sexual needs."

"Hehe, hehe, how do you solve it?" I asked with a smile on my face.

I am looking forward to her answer, to see what she said, should I solve it myself or how to solve it.

There were a series of footsteps that were rushing up the stairs, and then there was a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang and a bang.

I opened the door angrily. It was indeed Xu Nan. "Damn it's almost time, I won't come down yet!"

I also scolded, "It's almost time and it's not yet time. You're so anxious, you're anxious!"

"Get out! Go quickly! Let's get in trouble when someone comes later!" Xu Nan urged me, and then smiled at Liu Zhihui in the room.

I nodded to Liu Zhihui and signaled goodbye.

After closing the door, he listened to Xu Nan's constant nagging and scolding.

I thought to myself that Liu Zhihui had just guessed Xu Nan's psychology. Looking at Xu Nan, she was really nervous. It was not until she left outside and arrived at the prison office that she poured a glass of water with a relaxed look on her face and stopped nagging.

Such a strong woman, while she can understand my psychology and teach me how to solve other people's mental illnesses, she can also understand Xu Nan's psychology at the same time and accurately know Xu Nan's next steps.

Too awesome.

However, if a beautiful woman has sexual needs here, how should she solve it? Is it like other female offenders, suppressing and solving it yourself? Or will the gender object change like Xu Nan?

Too curious.

After staying in the office for a while, Xu Nan told me that Xie Danyang asked me to pretend to be her boyfriend on the weekend.

I told Xu Nan Xie Danyang that she had already told me.

Xu Nan said: "I want to tell you to pay attention to something."

"What's the matter?" I asked immediately.

"This time, Xie Danyang's parents are likely to ask you what you plan for the future with Xie Danyang."

I fucked it in my heart, and it was my future plan again.

"I plan for the future, I plan to have a yarn."

"I'm going, you uncle, you can't say that!" Xu Nan immediately scolded me.

"What do I say? I didn't have any plans."

"You have to say, thank you uncle and aunt for respecting me. Marrying my baby daughter to me is really a blessing I have cultivated in my previous life." Xu Nan taught me to speak.

"Do you want to be so hypocritical and disgusting?"

"As a person, even if he knows that these words are hypocritical, he likes to listen to them. Then you have to continue to say that your love for Danyang is very enthusiastic and has never changed. Even in the future, it will not change in your life. Although you can't afford a house for the time being, after two or three years of hard work, you should not have any problems in your down payment for a house and a decent car." Xu Nan taught me.

I sneered: "I'm going to your uncle, why do you have to buy a house when you get married? If it's really love, why are you talking about material things before you start getting married?"

Xu Nan opposed me: "If you can't even get material things, how can you maintain your so-called love?"

"Damn! Even if it is maintained, if you buy a house and a car, you have to work hard together. How can you say that you only rely on the man to work hard?" I said angrily.

"This is tradition, the traditional rule! Everyone else is like this, why do you need both parties to create together when you marry a wife?"

"Yes, let men bear it themselves? This is called love? Fairness?"

Xu Nan waved his hand: "I won't talk to you about these things. In short, you can just say that at that time. In any case, she must make her parents treat you well and recognize you, and not let them kick you away."

I said, "You are afraid that they will introduce men to Xie Danyang and force Xie Danyang to be with other people or even get married, right?"

Xu Nan stammered and said, "Well, um, don't ask so much, anyway, you follow what I said. Is it enough brother?"

"Enough, just help you."

"Thank you!"

Men, it’s really not easy to play a girlfriend now. I used all kinds of tricks and it took me many years to finally settle my girlfriend. The biggest trouble comes next. When I meet both parents, it doesn’t matter to girls. When I see parents, I pretend to be a lady and become restrained and ok. But boys are so miserable. When I see my mother-in-law, I am just like a police uncle who interrogates prisoners. They interrogate and ask about their family’s fortunes. Is there a house or a car, and I have a lot of monthly salary. Is there any bad habits?

Other things may be done, but the house cannot be handled. Don’t have a house, and stand by yourself. Poor parents in the world, and the mother-in-law is also for the sake of their daughter’s life better in the future. I understand. As a man, of course, we must prepare the minimum material conditions for our women and live without the most basic material. Which woman can follow you with your heart? The abusive love in the movies and TV dramas is a damn deceit! With the most basic material foundation, men can maintain good physical and sexual ability by using love to maintain the most perfect love for the women they love, and make their women happy. It is also the unshirkable responsibility of our men.

Whether it is Li Yangyang or Xie Danyang's parents, I care about my financial conditions as soon as they open. I said I don't have it, nothing. If I get married, my family has no money to buy a house for me, and I don't have money to afford it.

In this case, there will generally be only one result: if you don’t have a house or a car, don’t.

What does this mean? Young women of marriage age and their mothers attach too much importance to the man’s family conditions. As a baby girl, she can’t let her follow you to eat instant noodles in the future and can’t afford milk powder.

I would like to ask my female compatriots, why are you getting married?

1. Get the man’s property?

2. A life that seeks pleasure?

3. Can you show off from friends and colleagues that you have found someone who can support you, and buy various products to satisfy your vanity and so-called sense of security?

As a man, most of my male compatriots agree that men should take on the important responsibility of supporting their families, even in today's society where men and women are advocated equality. But why do men have to share half of their property with you because of marriage? Why do two people have to ask men to buy a house and a car when they set up a family together?

A man who has just graduated not long ago, even if he is thirty years old, should devote his energy to his career. Once you become a house slave, do you dare to change jobs easily? Do you dare to give up a stable job and start a business? You dare not, so you have lost your spirit and creativity. Therefore, our nation is losing creativity because many young men have become house slaves and car slaves.

If a man doesn’t buy a house, he is just a hooligan when he gets married? May I ask those mother-in-law, can men be hooligan when he buys a house? Can I have several houses and I marry several wives?

I think: forcing men to buy a house is a hooligan!

I shouted the slogans very loudly, but the result was still very realistic. Li Yangyang's parents looked down on me, and Xie Danyang's parents looked down on me. In short, they despise me and thought I could not afford their baby daughter. Well, if I can't afford it, I can't afford it. I feel distressed. A man is worried about a real man. Liu Zhihui said, I am so courageous and charming, and I have a bright future, and there will be times when their parents regret it in the future.

Liu Zhihui's trick is really amazing. When she thinks about this, she immediately feels much happier. I should ask Liu Zhihui about the marriage man buying a house and a car. She must have her clever insight.

Liu Zhihui, what sin came into being?

Curiosity is human instinct. I am much more curious about this woman than Helanting.
Chapter completed!