The dish was finally served.

I feasted.

As we were eating, the waiter helped us turn on the red wine and poured it to us. I said I would use a bowl.

The waiter was not surprised, so he poured it into a bowl and gave it to me.

Xie Danyang and I took a sip of wine. When I was busy eating, she asked, "Are we really allowed to be friends?"

An Baijing also discussed the issue of being friends with girls with in-depth discussions with me.

Men always want to pursue women from being friends with women, while women always want to tell men that they only want to be friends and reject men.

And if a woman thinks that a man starts to pursue her, what would a woman think if a man directly said that we can only be friends?

Yes, we are just friends? Do you often hear women say that I like you, but as a friend, do you hate this sentence?

An Baijing has taught me how to crack it.

We men should in turn say that we are just friends. When we talk to women for the first time, or when we date, you should mention being friends. We are together, we are just friends, we have no relationship, we are just friends, and then when we are on a real date, we say that I only want to be friends to make us understand each other, and I think you will be a good friend. After establishing a friendship relationship, you will start to make some dirty jokes with her, which gives you control over the relationship and you will judge whether to be friends or further development. It is almost something that women have never encountered before when men take the initiative to be friends. In addition, if you think you are only friends, you will put aside her appearance to understand what kind of person she is.

The more vague your relationship with her, the more beneficial it will be for you. First of all, if she doesn't treat you as a threat, you will have enough time and opportunity to show yourself in front of her, and she will not have the opportunity to reject you. More importantly, you will also have the opportunity to consider her connotation. Not only men should look at the connotation, but women should also look at the connotation. Beautiful and without connotation are only suitable for sleeping together, but you really fall in love with a woman because you are attracted to something from her. Of course, these are all off-topics and can be discussed later. If you have been in contact for a while, if you can't deal with her, or you think she is not suitable for you, you can also get out of it without losing face. The so-called ambiguity, if you say there is, it will have it, and if you say there is no, it will not. To reach such a state, it will be more interesting and fun! If you have a reputation but no status, as long as you have always been in contact, isn't that part of love?

Very interesting.

The more this happens, the more strange she becomes. Can't I attract him?

The same is true for the bisexual Xie Danyang.

However, I am so rational about this relationship, which is entirely due to the fact that I have many choices around me, and now I have already jumped out of the realm and we are just playing a game.

The so-called eternal and fairy tales, I want to cry to tell you, all of them are lies.

The essence of love is cruel. People who have experienced it know that love is not a disease, but it hurts more than any torture.

The only way to be invincible in the war of love is: if your heart doesn't move, it won't hurt.

From beginning to end, you need to rationally examine this war with an outsider's eyes. If you devote yourself and be confused, it's over, it's over, it's over, you will die of pain.

It would be interesting to me if this woman is as interesting as her, but she is close to me and even plays with other men, it makes me feel uncomfortable, such as Julihua, Helanting, Xia La, Li Yangyang, etc., how should I break it?

For me, this is easy to solve. I will go to other women immediately. Even if it is not as beautiful and sexy as Helanting, or as beautiful as Julihua, she is as straight as a flower. To put it bluntly, I can find other women with low scores to distract myself from the woman I like and overcome my sense of need for the woman I like.

Let’s talk about the sense of needs from a psychological perspective.

Many people, including myself, have had such experiences. In long-term relationships, due to insecurity and excessive demand for the partner, the ex has great pressure on love.

In psychology, this is: the inner self is not confident about love and the behaviors that arise. If you cannot understand it, I suggest you watch the psychological state and behavior of the heroine in a love movie "I want to be good with you" and whether it is similar to you.

We don’t regard it as a problem that we have no confidence and a strong sense of need. We don’t know at all that we don’t have confidence in love, and we don’t know what the sense of need is and what harm it does to love.

Emotional needs are emotional satisfaction and psychological identification. Due to changes in consumption concepts and improvements in consumption levels, people purchase goods not only to meet the basic needs of life, but also to gain spiritual enjoyment, thus creating emotional needs.

The benefits of a sense of need: Let you enjoy a deeper level of enjoyment not only material but also spiritually

Disadvantages of a sense of need: When a person has too strong feelings of need for something or emotionally, he will lose himself, lose his methods, and commit behaviors that harm others or hurt self-confidence.

Case: In order to show off and compare with others in front of friends, Zhang San wanted to buy Apple 6 and show off in his circle of friends. At this time, he had a huge sense of demand for Apple 6 and satisfy his vanity. Every time he posted any news, he would pay attention to it. The more he paid attention to the demand, the stronger the sense of demand. When Apple 6 was sold, it should be too expensive and he could not afford it. Later, he sold kidneys to exchange Apple 6 on the black market. This is the mentality of selling kidneys to exchange Apple in society. Of course, gamblers also had a huge sense of demand for getting rich overnight and getting nothing for nothing. When they were pursuing girls with their girlfriends.

Do you understand now?

When you overcome this human weakness and control yourself, you are not far from the happiness you want.

You may ask me if I have no sense of need for her? This is impossible. If I don’t have a sense of need, how could I still love her?

People should have a kingly mentality, and I will tell you an allusion.

During the Spring and Autumn Period, King Fuchai of Wu defeated King Goujian of Yue during the battle between Yue Kingdom. Fuchai wanted to capture Goujian, Fan Li made a plan and pretended to surrender, leaving the green mountains without worrying about burning firewood. Fuchai did not listen to the advice of his old minister Wu Zixu, and left Goujian and others. The king and minister of Yue Kingdom were slaves in Wu Kingdom for three years and suffered humiliation, and were finally released back to Yue Kingdom. Goujian secretly trained elite soldiers, and did not use mattresses to sleep every night, but only put some firewood and grass, and hung a bitter gall in the house. He would occasionally taste the taste of bitter gall, in order not to forget the shame of the past. Finally, he worked hard to govern and successfully restore the country. King Goujian of Yue also became the last overlord in the Spring and Autumn Period.

Just like Goujian, you should have 100 yuan that can attract girls' hearts.

Goujian was willing to be a slave for three years, suffered humiliation, and secretly trained elite soldiers. And I just need to hide my sense of need for women, control myself, enhance my self-worth, wait for the time to ripe, and move towards my love step by step.

And in the process of my pursuit, I not only did not take the initiative to contact her, but also asked her to contact me first.

This is what is called not investing, and you will not be unwilling to accept it. If you are not unwilling to accept it, you will not be heartbroken.

When I can be as patient, preparing, and waiting for the opportunity like Goujian, she will be curious that all her means and beauty will not conquer you, and then there will be signals that will benefit you.

In front of the beauty, as Liu Zhihui said, the first thing to show is confidence, but once she gives me a signal, I will post it back like a mad dog. Instead, I will ignore her signals more coldly and make her make more curious investments in me.

Once she invests too much, it will be difficult for her to collect it back.

From the time I went from my ex-girlfriend to now, I have summarized it anyway. The more she invests, the harder it will be to leave you.

Anyway, I am now, and I am not responsible if I do not take the initiative or refuse. In addition to the three principles of non-responsibility, I am not paying this principle myself.

Four non-principles.

If you don’t give, you don’t invest. If you don’t invest, it doesn’t matter. Whether you are Xiala, Xie Danyang, Helanting, Zhu Lihua, or Li Yangyang, I don’t give. You love to give and don’t give. If you like to go with whom you like, I will not feel as uncomfortable as my ex-girlfriend leaves me.

If you leave, it doesn't matter. I will immediately move away from the direction and talk to other women.

What kind of marriage is destined by heaven, what kind of love is supported by love, and how can you dare to be separated from you if you have no edge in the mountains and heaven and earth.

To me, it's all bullshit.

Since I was cuckolded by my ex-girlfriend, I have never believed in love again.

Maybe a woman will change my mind in the future, and maybe something will happen in the future to change my view of love, but for the moment, it won’t.

It’s really difficult to be a human being. Just a love relationship, there are so many things to learn.

As she was eating, Xie Danyang kicked me with his leg. When I looked down, one of her white legs stretched over: "I just ate it and ignore me."

I said, "Why are you all women like this? Do you have to serve your men in every possible way to care about you? They are to love you?"

Xie Danyang said dissatisfiedly: "That's not like you. At least they ignore me. You just ignore me and patronize yourself."

I said, "Oh, then you come and serve me. This is all right, let's take care of you."

Xie Danyang's beautiful eyes rolled and said, "Okay."

Then, she picked up a piece of fish, dipped it in a dish of sauce on the table, and stuffed it into my mouth.

The fish tastes good.

I'm dying!

Suddenly, a cool and spicy smell surged into the brain, and then the brain went blank and tears immediately flew out.

Being trapped!

Seeing me crying with my head in pain, Xie Danyang smiled like a trembling tree.

I waited for the mustard smell to pass, and I was so angry that I could turn her around.

Slap her on the butt several times.

Her tears flew out in pain.

She cried immediately, and it was the first time I saw her crying: "You hit me!"

I said viciously: "You dare to play with me next time, let's see how I will kill you!"

She wiped her tears, picked up her bag, and left immediately.

Just go, just go, I'm so angry that you're going to find another woman tonight!

She really left.

OK, you go, I'll finish eating first.
Chapter completed!