The doctors finally came out.

The doctor said to us: "The patient is fine, he has a stomachache, and is injecting."

Then, the female prisoner lay on the hospital bed, pulled it out, and arrived in the ward.

We went over, at the door of the ward.

It was almost five o'clock in the afternoon and I was a little hungry, so I said to the two female prison guards: "Are you hungry?"

The female prison guard said, "It's a little bit. There is food in the hospital cafeteria here, so there is no money."

I said, "I know, but we all came out. Is it still something from the cafeteria?"

They said, "Captain Zhang, do you want to eat outside?"

I said, "Yes, I'll treat you to eat."

They said, "No, no, no, let's treat you to eat!"

I said, "Don't talk nonsense, just make a happy decision, but we can't all go out. I'm here to guard the prisoner and ask her what's going on. Then, you go out and have enough food and drink, and then pack it for me, okay!"

They said, "You'd better go, let's keep you."

I took out three hundred dollars and gave them: "Go quickly and go quickly!"

They said, "How can we be so embarrassed to do this? Ah, we are embarrassed to ask for it!"

I said, "Stop talking nonsense, go quickly!"

I stuffed money to them.

They happily took the money, said thank you, and then happily went out.

I asked the nurse who came out of the ward: "How is the patient?"

The nurse said, "It's okay, I'm resting."

I asked, "Is she awake?"

The nurse nodded.

I said, "I'll go in and see her."

After entering, I saw the female prisoner lying down with an infusion, and her face looked much better than before.

I took a stool and sat next to the hospital bed. She looked at me.

I said, "Do you know me?"

She said with a weak voice: "Captain Zhang."

I nodded.

I looked at her and asked, "I don't know what to call you?"

She said: "Ye Zhenzhen."

I said, "Well, a nice name. I want to ask, how does it feel if I swallow more than a pack of cigarettes?"

She said: "Disgusting, nausea, dizzy, dizzy."

I said, "Do you want to die or don't want to live?"

She asked me, "Is there any difference?"

I said, "Hehe, Ye Zhenzhen, you know, every year in prison, there are many people committing suicide, and there are all kinds of reasons. I don't know why you committed suicide. I heard that you originally wanted to consult me ​​as a psychological counselor, but why didn't you come later?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "No one cares about me, no one cares about me. I said I have a mental illness, I suppressed it, and they ignored it."

I nodded. What she said was that many female prisoners said they were sick and wanted to come to see me, but many people were actually not that serious, while others had different purposes, not for the sake of medical treatment at all. Some wanted to go out for a walk, and some wanted to see men. Yes, they just wanted to see me, and then they wanted to do something with me. Last time I took one, damn.

I asked, "Can you talk to me?"

She said: "I don't know why, but I'm always depressed and I'm very angry, and I'm very angry when I see something that makes me unhappy."

I asked, "Then what do you think you're angry?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "The main reason is that they have trouble with them. Some of them always like to find fault with me. I am more capable. Others are jealous of me, so they often can't get along with me because of some trivial matters."

I asked, "Who are they referring to?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "Funners."

I asked, "So, is it someone who asked you for your fault, which makes you angry?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "Of course, if they don't pick on my faults, how could I get angry?"

I thought about it and said, "Let's assume an example. If one day you are drinking water and someone comes over and spills your water, what would you think?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "I will be very angry and wonder why this person is so careless. Then she complains, and then she talks back, I will quarrel with her."

I said, "If you were drinking coffee outside and hitting your cup of coffee, and that person was blind, what would you do if you knew he was blind?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "Blind people? Blind people cannot see them, I may forgive him."

I said, "Look, it is one thing that spills coffee no matter what the reason, but different cognitive results will produce different emotions. Therefore, the cognition of things is the real reason for emotions."

Ye Zhenzhen thought for a while and said, "What you said seems to make sense."

I said: "Everyone will have some views on events that occur in life. Some are reasonable and some are unreasonable. Different understandings will lead to different emotional states. If you realize that your current emotional state is caused by some unreasonable perceptions, you can control your emotions by changing it."

Ye Zhenzhen asked: "Is this really possible?"

I said, "Others may encounter those things you encounter, but others may not be like you are now. What do you think is going on?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "Are you saying that I have different understandings from them? But I haven't seen any unreasonable aspects of my understanding of others' problems."

I asked, "This is exactly the next issue to be discussed. Think calmly, what is the reason why you have a tense relationship with your colleagues?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "Those people always like to find my fault."

I said, "What is the reason why you are not allowed to find fault with you?"

Ye Zhenzhen: "What I do myself and what does it have to do with them? How much work I have done and how good I have done, why should they find my fault?"

I said, "You can hope that others will not pick on your faults, but you cannot prevent others from picking on your faults."

She asked: "Can't you make demands on others?"

I said, "You can make demands on others, but what you ask you to do to others, others should do to you. This is an unreasonable belief and an absolute requirement because we cannot ask others to do what they must do for us. If we turn our demands on others into hope, when something we don't want happens, it is at most a disappointment. We won't resent others too much, and we won't be angry."

She said: "You are right, but I'm worried that I can't do this. Can this problem be corrected?"

I said: "Your problem has been formed over a long period of time, probably because of the environment you grew up in childhood. I ask you, are you usually afraid of others getting angry and being criticized for two reasons. When you were young, you were often raised and criticized, and you often see some scenes of being criticized."

She asked: "Does it mean to be scolded and asked about faults?"

I said, "Yes."

She said: "My family likes to find faults and likes to compare me with other children."

I said: "If you deal with problems from the original family, if these two reasons are the two, you must try to cultivate this abusive relationship between yourself and your nurturing person. Moreover, you must try to maintain enough respect for the person being criticized. The reason why you are also affected is because of your identification with the harsh father or mother. Once the person you identify with becomes respected, you will respect yourself more and not be affected by the aggressive emotions of others from the outside world. You have developed psychological aggression. You simply transfer the attacks on others, such as anger, hostility, and abuse, to yourself. The reason why you will be

If someone is angry, he will blame himself so much, not because the other person loses his temper, but because you have subconsciously hidden strong attacks on this person. Also, narcissism, your own excessive criticism of yourself means narcissism, and the slightest anger of others makes you scared, so he chooses to be angry with yourself, chooses to be angry with yourself, rather than others pissing you off to death, so you are the most powerful. It is difficult to change quickly. But as long as you keep changing in practice, start from bit by bit, don’t be discouraged when you recur, the key is persistence, and you will definitely achieve the ideal result."

She asked, "How to change? Is it really a narrow mind? When I saw something about them, I got angry, came to their hostility and had a fight with them. I couldn't get along well with them. I was tired. I was worried that they would kill me one day, afraid that they would poison me, afraid that they would strangle me to death in places where no one saw it, and afraid that they would drown me in the bathroom. I thought it would be better to commit suicide by myself. I wanted to die, but I was afraid of pain, dare not hang myself, cut my wrists, and I heard that there was nicotine in the cigarette, which could make people die, so I swallowed it."

I nodded and said, "You are a sign of depression, and it is accompanied by paranoid persecution."

She said, "What should I do?"

I said, "First of all, don't be perfect in everything. Don't strive for perfection in everything. Open your mind and do your best to experience the real fun in the process. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, don't always think about being the first and doing the most. Look at those who are busy every day, who die of illness and sudden death afterwards. Who said they are smart? They have spent all their lives on the so-called career and money. If you don't put a lot of pressure on yourself, you can feel much more relaxed. Then, you know how to adjust your mood. If you feel so depressed, tell your friends that you have to learn to make friends. In fact, there is a saying in interpersonal relationships that says that people's hearts are exchanged for people's hearts, and eight taels are exchanged for half a pound. Do you know what it means?"

Ye Zhenzhen asked me: "What does it mean?"

I said, "If you want to win people's hearts, you have to suffer a little loss. If you pay 80% of the money, you will get 50% of the money. Do you understand? Maybe you have paid a lot, but you find that your friends will not treat you as well as you do. What will you do?"

Ye Zhenzhen said: "Then I can't do it. I will get angry and get angry. I will think a lot, wondering why she treats me like this? Why not be like me?"

I nodded and said, "You are very sensitive and feel that you are at a loss, but you are not at a loss. You are narrow-minded."
Chapter completed!