Push and pull is very important in a relationship. Most people think that if two people really like each other, there will be no push and pull. Wouldn't it be better to treat each other sincerely and open up and say what they have to say?

However, this is actually a very wrong view, at least it does not apply in most situations where men and women get along.

If you do this, one possibility is that two people are attracted to each other and impulsively combine together quickly. After burning for a while, it will become boring when the passion subsides.

The other is that you burst out with enthusiasm and initiative, scaring the other person, turning around and running away from you.

"Like is like a gust of wind. Love is like a steady flow of water."

Emotion is a difficult thing to understand. Sometimes you pay with sincerity, but the other person doesn't appreciate it. On the contrary, your attitude becomes more and more cold. Sometimes you turn a deaf ear to others, and they will turn to care about you.

In short, if you like someone and hold on to him/her, or chat with him/her crazily every day, it will give the other person the feeling that he/she has nothing to do every day. This will be counterproductive, even if the other person originally likes you.

, will gradually produce boredom.

In fact, this is human nature. The easier it is to get it, the less it will be cherished. Therefore, if you want to maintain a relationship, you need to relax. Appropriate use of push and pull is conducive to the long-term development of the relationship.

Too many people push too hard when they fall in love, either because of a serious lack of love due to family reasons since childhood, or because they have too little love experience and don’t know how to love like this. It is easy to invest too quickly at the beginning, and end up scaring the other person away, or

Let the other party fall into a tug-of-war where they no longer give and invest, resulting in not getting the love you want.

It's like a hungry person who finally finds food and rushes to it without hesitation, wanting to enjoy the food immediately, but completely loses the ability to think about why this food appears here and what will happen if I eat it.

The question is what will be the consequences?

Whether before or after a relationship, or even after getting married, you can do push and pull.

It is the surprise after disappointment, which can expand people's sense of gain and make the opposite sex fall in love with you.

Before falling in love, the normal approach is to find the person you like, first get closer and observe the other person, then move away from the relationship, and then observe the other person.

This is ambiguity, the dust has not yet settled, everything is reasonable.

Testing and challenging each other's limits. This kind of exploration and challenge is a very tempting experience in ambiguity. In this way, we can give full play to our wonderful guesses and reveries about each other. This stage is very interesting and enjoyable.

If the two parties are in the same rank, have enough tacit understanding and like each other, they can get to know each other more deeply through this process and gradually deepen their good feelings. Yes, good push and pull can deepen the relationship.

Many scumbag men and scumbag women know this very well. They use push and pull to induce emotional fluctuations, and at the same time, they are ambiguous with many members of the opposite sex, allowing them to invest emotionally and financially in themselves.

This is disgusting, and it is also the reason why many people are disgusted with the word "push-pull" and think it taints sincere feelings.

But what we need to know is that there is nothing wrong with the technique itself. Certain medicinal materials can kill people, and sometimes they can also save people.

A sentence in "Cai Gen Tan" puts it well, as the saying goes: "Snobbishness, those who are not close are clean; those who are close and untainted are especially clean. Those who are clever and mechanical, who do not know are high; those who know it but do not use it are especially clean.

high."

People who are not close to power, fame and fortune are noble. People who are close to power, fame and fortune, but are not tempted by them are even more noble. People who do not understand the tricks and tactics are noble, and people who know the tricks but do not use them are even nobler.

Therefore, it is right to know how to push and pull, and not to use it to play with other people's feelings or to make profits. Instead, use it to make your own love path happier and more fulfilling. There is no such thing as being insincere or disrespectful towards love.

If you want to push, you must first bring the person closer.

Shen Qiongxiao brought her and Gao Yun closer, holding hands, kissing, and at the right time using words to hint at the other party's confession.

At this time, the relationship between the two could be said to be as close as possible, but then she immediately refused and pushed the relationship further away.

On the one hand, Gao Yun was indeed not sufficiently prepared; on the other hand, Shen Qiongxiao just didn't want Gao Yun to confirm a relationship with her so easily.

She understands people's psychology very well, and of course she knows the importance of pushing and pulling.

"You can't defeat me!"

“If you don’t want to eat, don’t eat!”

However, she also underestimated Gao Yun's cruelty. After his confession was rejected on New Year's Eve, although Gao communicated with her normally, he never touched her finger or said an ambiguous word to her again.

"Well, push me away. It will be difficult to pull me back again."

The ultimate goal of push and pull is to bring people to your side. Therefore, pulling must be the last step. Pushing is the means, and pulling is the goal. Without pulling, pushing is meaningless, and without pushing, pulling has no value.

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On the first day of the first lunar month, it turned from sunny to light snow and then to cloudy. It was the sixth day of their trip.

Starting from Laigu Village, we returned to National Highway 318 and had a picnic on the edge of Ranwu Lake, which is famous for its tranquility and blue sky.

Someone described Ranwu Lake this way: "The deep blue water of Ranwu Lake is like a tear falling from the sky, so silent that there is no sound at all, like a woman frozen in time, with no more ripples in her heart. She doesn't eat Fireworks on earth still retain the original beauty that is hard to find in the world, the legendary plateau dreamland."

Here, Gao Yun enjoyed the scenery and ate three boxes of self-heating rice, and then hit the road again, down the Parlung Zangbo River, passing through the Parlung Zangbo Grand Canyon, the third largest canyon in the world, and meeting the rolling waves among the high mountains. , walked along the winding and roaring river, and arrived in Bomi that afternoon.

It was cloudy on the second day of the first lunar month, and it was the seventh day of their trip.

After tasting delicious food at several famous restaurants in Bomi, the two drove across the Tongmai Bridge and marched among the majestic mountains. Along the way, they saw snow-capped mountains and mist, and the scenery was like a miraculous workmanship, like a splash-ink landscape. They had dinner in Lulang at noon that day. We had a stone pot chicken for lunch and arrived in Nyingchi in the afternoon.

It is known as the Little Switzerland of snow areas and the Jiangnan of snow areas. It is famous for the world's deepest grand canyon "Yarlung Zangbo Grand Canyon", and has the world's largest vertical landform distribution and unusually rich vegetation. And wild animal resources, with high mountains and long rivers, it is difficult for humans to reach it, and the original natural features are well preserved. It is one of the few remaining pure lands in the world that has been set foot in by humans.

The two stayed in Linzhi for a day and went to the Yarlung Zangbo Grand Canyon Scenic Area. Along the way, they enjoyed the charming scenery of Benri Mountain, Niyang River Observation Deck and the intersection of the two rivers.

On the fourth day of the first lunar month, the clouds turned sunny, and it was the ninth day of their trip.

There are two routes from Linzhi to Lashi. One is Highway 318, which is 400 kilometers direct. The road condition is very good. It can be reached in half a day, but you will miss a lot of scenery. The other is National Highway 560, which takes a detour and costs more than 600 kilometers. kilometers, but there are many views along the way.

The two chose the second route, Linzhi-Langxian-Jiacha-Qusong-Shannan.

The 600-kilometer journey took the two of them three days because there was so much to see.

There is the "Lam Latso" national first-level water resources reserve, with beautiful natural scenery such as rivers, grasslands, snow-capped mountains, lakes, etc., as well as Balqude Temple, Changzhu Temple, Samye Temple, and Qingpu Cultivation Mountain.

Yumbulakang, Tibetan Tombs and other cultural landscapes.

At the same time, they also met all kinds of people, some with malicious intentions, some with good intentions, some travelers with the same status as them by cycling, hiking, self-driving, etc. Some were devout worshipers who took three steps and one knock to measure the sacred mountain with their bodies.

who...

On the seventh day of the first lunar month, it was sunny. On the morning of the twelfth day of the trip, the two arrived in Lashi.

There have been changes in appearance compared to before departure. The most obvious thing is that the skin has turned a little darker.

Even if you drive a car and wear a scarf and sunglasses whenever you go out, you can't protect yourself from the ultraviolet rays of this plateau.

"Ah~ finally here."

In the Potala Palace Square, the city square with the highest altitude in the world, Gao Yun was just like lying on the ice-eroded lake on the night of New Year's Eve, lying in a large shape on the brick surface of the square, making meaningless noises from his mouth.

Whisper.

This twelve-day journey was picturesque, refreshing, fun and novel, and the hard work of traveling and traveling was real. Now we have finally reached the end. Although everyone feels sorry that the journey is coming to an end, they all breathe a sigh of relief.

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Perhaps because of the Spring Festival, there were not many people in the square, and Shen Qiongxiao was taking pictures with a camera nearby.

"What do you think?"

Under the blue sky and white clouds, Gao Yun was basking in the sun, crossed his legs, and said lazily: "What do you think? Now I don't dare to think about anything."

Now the relationship between the two of them is completely that of ordinary friends, even more than ordinary friends. Not to mention physical contact, there is not even eye contact between them. Of course, this was intentional by Gao.

It's revenge! A naked revenge for being rejected!

It was rare that someone Gao took the initiative to confess his love, only to be rejected out of hand. He was very annoyed.

Shen Qiongxiao also knew that she pushed Gao Yun too hard on the night of New Year's Eve, so in the six days since the first day of the new year, she occasionally used small movements or words to pull Gao Yun back, but no matter how hard she tried, she couldn't pull him back.

Gao Yun has been keeping a distance from her.

Refuse to have physical contact or accept ambiguous words, which is almost like a cold war between lovers.

Although Shen Luohan was annoyed, he already felt a little guilty...

"I'm hungry." Shen Qiongxiao gestured to hold his hand: "Please go and eat."

"Ah, let's go. You don't need to invite me. I'll treat you. I agreed before I came here. I'll pay for all the expenses along the way."

As Gao Yun spoke, he stood up, put his hands in his pockets to prevent the other party from touching him, and walked forward leisurely.

Shen Qiongxiao followed closely, unable to hold on any longer: "What on earth do you mean? Six days!"

"You don't know what I mean?"

Gao Yun said calmly: "You just need to understand that we are not boyfriend and girlfriend yet."

"So, it's better for us to keep a distance. I am a man who abides by male ethics."

The original words are returned!

"you!"

Shen Qiongxiao gritted her teeth in anger and even wanted to hit someone, but there was nothing she could do...

As they were walking towards the parking lot outside the square, they saw two girls playing with audio equipment in the center of the square, seemingly broadcasting live.

After taking a closer look, they both knew each other. The two girls were none other than Zhang Yuan and Yin Yixin, whom they had met by chance in Kangding.

"Hi, when did you arrive at Lashi?"

Gao Yun came forward to greet him enthusiastically. Because he was wearing a scarf and sunglasses, the two girls almost didn't recognize him. When he took off his sunglasses, Yin Yixin immediately ran to him and said in surprise: "We just arrived today, Ayun, what are you doing?" When has the time come?"

"What a coincidence, it's also today."

"Ah? Such a coincidence, then why didn't I meet you on the road? Which route did you take?"

After chatting, I learned that Yin Yixin and Zhang Yuan were traveling on National Highway 318. They started live broadcasting and singing all the way from Kangding, and they stopped and stopped. The two groups never met on the road.
To be continued...