How to become friends with those relatively strangers in the first meeting? Or to make the relationship between the two parties no longer strange? Among them is a girl who may be introverted or even suspected of being "weird"?

Regarding this issue, Gao Yun has studied a method. No matter who he is or what his personality is, as long as the other person is in a normal state of mind, you can follow this method to quickly become friends and strengthen her (his) trust in you.

It involves a theory that includes sociology and psychology. It is called Social Exge Theory in English and social exchange theory in Chinese.

This theory holds that the reason why A and B become friends is because A and B can continue to benefit from each other.

The range of benefits is very wide, it can be cash or other physical objects as gifts. It can be emotional care, verbal support, or the transfer of knowledge.

In short, friends are helpful to you, and you are also helpful to your friends.

You must always improve your material values ​​and emotions for both of you, so that you can become friends.

So here are the prerequisites for becoming friends with the other person in the first meeting. You must have value yourself. Secondly, you must be sincere, friendly and smiling. When chatting, adopt the method of "cold reading + warm praise", listen carefully, and do not be egotistical.

Be the leader, ask more open-ended questions instead of closed-ended questions, etc... Paying attention to these similar details will make others like you more quickly.

Then, the most critical point is to make others' emotions agree with yours. Use good emotions to infect others, lead them, and make them agree with you. Your relationship will be brought closer in an instant.

Our emotions have various vibration frequencies: the more positive the mood, the higher the vibration energy; conversely, the lower the vibration energy. The prerequisite for establishing resonance is to find a consistent vibration frequency and be in the same emotional state as the other person.

vibration area.

To put it simply, it means synchronizing movements + expressing empathy. You and I are the same kind of people. If we are happy, we will be happy together, if we are angry, we will be angry together, and of course we must make a fool of ourselves together...

Gao Yun was the leader of this conversation in the cafe. He gave his performance a score of 60, barely passing.

There was a big age difference between the two parties, and there was still a barrier at first. Gao Yun didn't take the signing of the contract seriously. He mentioned it casually to see what the two girls thought. As a result, they took it seriously and used their adult brains to discuss it.

Yes, although he expressed his intention to sign a contract, the atmosphere became formal. Gao Yun got the answer he wanted and realized something was wrong, so he quickly changed the topic.

It is more important to make friends. When discussing business or signing contracts, just ask your subordinates to communicate with their parents. As the boss, it is okay for you to worry about this, but it is not necessary.

So he first used Wen Qi's accent to cut into the topic, tactfully reminded her of her current situation, and dispelled her concerns about signing a contract with a film and television company. Then each of them got a cup of coffee, introduced how to drink Espresso to provide value, and then proposed to drink it together.

, trying to achieve emotional resonance among the three.

The final effect was very good, further eliminating the age gap and bringing the distance closer...

But this coffee?!excuse me?

As soon as Gao Yun and the two girls walked out of the coffee shop, Gao Yun sent a WeChat message to his secretary at Qin University and shared the location: "Buy this Four Seasons Cafe on the Nortel campus for me! The coffee tastes terrible. Renovate it.

Find the top baristas and pastry chefs in the country to settle in.”

Qin Bingtong replied quickly: "Okay, it will be contracted by Ayun today, and the design drawings will be produced within two days."

"Um."

Gao Yun felt more at ease. He looked back at the cafe and started thinking about its new name...

Sorry, Shenhao's happiness is so simple and boring.

The coffee on campus tastes bad? Choose one far away?

Wouldn't it be great if I just bought it and exchanged it for the barista, so I can drink it regularly from now on?!

He thought for a long time, looked at the location of the cafe, and suddenly said: "What do you think about changing the name of our cafe to Xiying?"

Zhang Zifeng said casually: "That's quite interesting. There is another Xiying in the Beijing Film Academy. It does sound more interesting than the current Four Seasons name."

Regarding the names of the two schools, "Nortel" and "Beijing Film", for a long time, in the eyes of teachers, students and insiders of the school, "Beijing Film" refers to the Capital Film Studio next door, and "Beijing Film Studio" refers to the Capital Film Studio next door.

"Electricity" refers to the Capital Film Academy, the two are not the same thing.

However, the public and locals like to call the film school "Beijing Film School". Therefore, the name of the school once became the basis for distinguishing between insiders and outsiders.

Later, the Capital Film Studio was demolished, and the school's official account began to call itself "Beijing Film". But the interesting thing is that many students and teachers couldn't change their words and still called their school "Northern Film".

However, there is no problem with either name.

Chen Wenqi asked: "The squad leader wants to buy this cafe?"

Gao Yun nodded: "In half a month, when the renovation of Xiying is completed, I will replace a group of high-level baristas and pastry chefs. Let's come here to have a cup of Espresso again. It's like I made an appointment with you in advance."

Are all really rich people so willful?

The two girls looked at each other, only one idea came to their minds, and then they agreed.

…

"Hello? Teacher Du?"

"Monitor Gao, have you finished your meal? Come to the dean's office for a meeting."

"OK!"

The afternoon class was at 1:30, and it was still early after dinner. Gao Yun, who had not come to buy the contract, waited for the meeting notice from counselor Du. After saying goodbye to the two girls, he strolled to the Dean of the Performance Department of Nortel

's office.

Du Ling and Xu Qinglei were both here, as well as the two vice-deans, Wang Jinsong and Jiang Lifen. Gao Yun had met them during the art exam.

School leaders and teachers gathered together, mainly because they wanted to talk about the student union president. They also took the opportunity to meet and chat with Gao Yun, who was joining the school on his first day.

After all, Gao Yun is not an ordinary student. He is famous, rich and influential, which increases Nortel's registration rate and authority. At the same time, it may also boost the success rate of this group of students in the performance department, directing department and other related majors.

However, although Gao Yun's entry into Nortel as a student brought many benefits to the school, it also brought with it a hidden safety hazard.

Nortel's nickname was "Capital Shady College" after "Capital Timber College".

This is a well-deserved reputation. If this kid doesn't like something and exposes Nortel's old sesame and rotten millet stuff on the Internet like some previous students did, then Nortel College will probably explode.

Therefore, people like Gao Yun must be treated with caution, and they must keep abreast of their ideological trends at all times to prevent him from leaking the truth. If there are any problems, everyone should sit down to discuss, digest them internally, and negotiate solutions. It is not good for anyone to make a fuss.

Of course, the best way is to bring him into the school, let him serve as the president of the student union, and become a member of Nortel. After all, there is no reason for one's own people to beat one's own people...

Xu Qinglei introduced Gao Yun one by one: "This is Dean Zhang Tong."

"Hello, Dean Zhang!"

"This is Dean Wang Jinsong."

"Hello, Wangyuan!"

"This is Branch Dean Jiang Li."

"Hello Jiang Yuan!"

"Xiao Gao's clothes are nice. He is lively and stable. He is indeed a representative of Nortel college students."

"Well, I heard that your class of 21st grade will have a social gathering with the class of 20th grade class tonight? This spirit of uniting classmates must be maintained!"

The two vice-presidents were very enthusiastic about Gao Yun and praised him non-stop. Regardless of his status as the boss of Yunqi Film and Television, his title as the number one self-media person is enough to win the favor of the school leaders. So far, he is the only one in the country.

One share, the influence is too great, and more than 50 million has been invested to establish a scholarship fund, and he has also won the May 4th Youth Medal. Such a person will make the relevant school leaders look good in any university he attends.

Immediately afterwards, Zhang Tong kindly asked Gao Yun how he felt on the first day of school: "How does it feel to enter Nortel?"

I am a rainbow fart above someone else, but in short, I feel very good; the school spirit is free, open, and unique. The students respect their teachers, are united and loving. The teachers are conscientious and have both morals and ethics. The leaders are far-sighted and have good governance...the only one

The disadvantage is that the campus is a bit small.

Zhang Tong smiled and said: "This problem will be solved soon. The new campus has been built, just fifty kilometers away in Huai County. In half a month, Nortel's full-time undergraduate students will move there. The old campus is only responsible for graduate students and doctoral students."

Level teaching. The news will be announced tomorrow and the relocation will begin one after another."

Xu Qinglei interjected: "The new campus is quite close to your home, so you won't have to travel back and forth."

"Ah?!" Gao Yun was a little surprised. Although he was a little surprised, he thought to himself: Didn't I buy the Xiying movie in vain? It took only half a month to move, and I didn't even have time to decorate it!

So, he immediately took out his mobile phone and sent Qin Bingtong a WeChat message: "Stop trading!"

Qin Bingtong took the opportunity to play a joke: "Who is the ghost in (dog head)?"

Gao Yun set his cell phone to silent and ignored it, and continued the meeting.

Generally speaking, the school leaders and teachers were very satisfied with Gao Yun during this talk. He is very good and he is a good child. He is worthy of our school’s dedicated resources to focus on training!

So the leader asked, do you have any ideas about the student union president?

Gao Yun looked hesitant and expressed his concerns. The school leader gave him Beidian brand reassurance pills.

Didn't catch up with the election and did not comply with the procedures? The freshman is not qualified enough?

It doesn't matter, you can set up a new trainee student union president, and the school leaders will appoint him directly.

The former student union president voluntarily stepped down to make way for his successor, and will assist you in your work. You only need to be responsible for the overall planning. Normally there is nothing trivial.

As for lack of qualifications, that doesn't even exist. You have to believe in your ability, reputation and influence. Your classmates will all respect you and will definitely be convinced.

So we have already studied and decided that you will serve as the president of the intern student union of the Performance Department this time. After passing the election in your sophomore year, you will be the president of the student union of the whole school. Don’t be humble and recite poems and decline again and again. This is the responsibility of all the classmates and teachers in the school.

If your leadership approves you, you will be welcomed by everyone.

Occasionally, if you have an idea or a film you want to make, take Nortel students to practice and shoot. No matter what level or major you are in, the teachers will support you. When the time comes, both the equipment and people on campus will listen to you.

Transfer, the benefits to you as chairman will definitely be great!

Gao Yun was moved and couldn't resist the temptation and agreed to take on this responsibility. So, today, after the class president and psychology committee member, he was appointed as the president of the student union.

Directly skipping the levels of officer-deputy minister-minister-presidium member, etc., and jumping to the top person in charge of the student union...

"Is this what shady feels like? Ah, I'm not pure anymore, I'm dirty!!"
To be continued...