Green tea is ferocious and very capable.

Lu Qing was studying, but she was not used to it. She said to Hou Xu earnestly: "Let me borrow a few words that you are familiar with to tell me how you fell in love with her step by step. From the perspective of an onlooker,

Analyze how your relationship came to be from an objective perspective."

"..."

Hou Xu had a bad feeling in his heart and nodded with a wry smile.

"Hu Xueya first appeared in front of you with her good appearance and carefully packaged words and deeds, and then adopted a passionate attitude and sent you an invitation to pursue her. But when you persisted in pursuing her, according to the 'minimum interest'

The principle is to maintain an attitude of being close and distant, sometimes hot and cold, to guide you to treat her well, increase the time and effort you spend on her, and use the 'Veblen effect' of the more expensive the better to increase your contribution.

cost……"

"At this point, you have walked into the trap of the 'Franklin Effect', contracted the inertia of 'path dependence', and been checked and balanced by the 'Matthew Effect'; in love, the more invested the person is, the less likely he is to be

Cherish it, the more selfish the person, the more attractive he will be!"

"Even if you now know in your heart that being with Hu Xueya is wrong and wrong, but you still can't help it. It's like people still smoke despite knowing that smoking is harmful. This shows that you have stepped on 'cognitive dissonance'

The trap.”

"In view of the time, money and affection you have invested in Hu Xueya in the past, the more you invest, the more you like it. The 'sunk cost' is huge. You have been affected by the 'loss aversion effect' and the Chiconi effect... so even if Hu Xueya committed such a crime,

Serious mistake, you still want to get back together with the other person."

"Actually, this is a very, very..."

Lu Qing wanted to scold him for being stupid, but she glanced at Gao Yun and sighed: "It's a very strange thing."

Hou Xu, who was silent, finally said: "I know."

"Then I can't figure it out. Since you can clearly see the key to this and analyze the reasons, why are you still obsessed with her?"

"Ugh...hiss...yum, it's all my fault. You're right."

The dinner had just begun, Hu Xueya was crying so hard that Hou Xu handed her a piece of paper to comfort her.

Gao Yun was eating with his head down, and Shen Qiongxiao was also eating slowly, occasionally exchanging the taste of the dishes with her boyfriend, and turning a deaf ear to what was happening here. Lu Qing didn't know what to say now.

What the hell?!

Am I going to charge into the battle alone? Are you all here for free?!

Little did Miss Lu know that the two of them had already discussed it before they came. In order not to offend anyone and not hurt their feelings, they tried their best not to speak...

After thinking about it, Lu Qing also picked up her phone... A few seconds later, a WeChat alert sounded on Gao's phone.

"(Tou Tou) say a few words? Let's go after we break up? Are you crying so hard? I feel like a female villain."

Hey, don’t bully the junior high school students? Thirty years in Hedong and thirty years in Hexi? The current chairman of the Nortel Student Union said: You have really played the role of a little villain who was slapped in the face...

Gao Yun smiled and showed Shen Qiongxiao his cell phone: "Can you say a few words to wrap up?"

"..."

Shen Qiongxiao, who had been eating slowly and watching coldly, rolled his eyes, put down his chopsticks, and said: "Love is not blind, and it is not without reason. Love is blind. This sentence can only be given to those simple people.

listen."

"What Ms. Hu just talked about is really vague? Is it the same as not saying anything? This means that you don't know exactly what you like about Hou Xu. In other words, you know it in your heart, but you don't know how to say it in a short time. "

"Uh-huh."

Hu Xueya transformed into a tearful person, nodding her head while crying.

Hou Xu served Hu Xuelia a drink: "Senior, please continue."

Shen Qiongxiao thanked him and said: "Hou Xu, you must be a little confused. You don't know what you like about Hu Xueya, and you don't know whether to divide or make peace. You are very confused, so you have today's meal. ."

"right."

"Actually, Gao Yun and I have communicated on the road before. As friends, let's make two suggestions. After that, let's have a good meal and stop talking about this matter, okay?"

Hou Xu nodded: "Okay."

Shen Qiongxiao looked at Gao Yun and asked, "Then let me tell you?"

"Tell me." Gao Yun teased: "Do you need to avoid being irrelevant? Hypnotize these two protagonists and let them confide in their hearts to see what they are thinking deep down..."

Shen Qiongxiao teased slightly: "If hypnosis is as magical as in movies and novels, then I will be the first to hypnotize you!"

Hypnosis? What are I doing with hypnosis? If I tell the system, won’t you have to hand me over to the state?!

Gao Yun's eyes widened: "You have such a great boyfriend like me and you still want to hypnotize me? It's unreasonable!"

"Xiangxiang, stop acting, that's it."

Lu Qing smiled lazily: "If I were Shen Qiongxiao, I would also hypnotize you. You must give a hint that cheating will lead to impotence, otherwise you won't feel at ease at all."

"Ha." Gao Yun smiled meaninglessly, others also smiled, and the atmosphere in the room relaxed slightly.

"Whether your feelings are right or wrong, true or false, I am not qualified to say anything."

This was Shen Qiongxiao's first sentence. It had a very specific meaning. Lu Qing felt awkward and frowned slightly: "Then what can you say?"

Shen Qiongxiao said slowly: "Two suggestions. First, I suggest you make a partner score yourself."

"Mate rating? What's that?"

Under Hou Xu's puzzled expression, Shen Qiongxiao said: "As the name suggests, it is to rate each other as boyfriend and girlfriend. It is ridiculous to quantify others into a series of scores, but I believe that your relationship is already very deep, so treat this score as a game come and play."

"A person's charm in the eyes of the opposite sex consists of five parts: material value, emotional value, spiritual value, appearance and sex."

"Hou Xu, Hu Xuelia, you both like each other, but you don't know what exactly you like. Therefore, this rating is for you to dig into your hearts, understand this relationship better, and understand why each other likes each other."

"The specific rule is to use one hundred as the highest score, score based on the other person's liking, and then divide the scores into these five parts based on importance."

"Look at the proportions of each and analyze what you like about the other person more. Then tell the reasons why you like this part. It is best if the total scores of both parties and the scores of each part are similar."

"It should be noted that scoring must be cautious and conservative. 100 points is almost impossible, and 90 points is already considered a very high score. It is best to take a piece of paper each and write down the score for each item on it. No peeking is allowed when scoring. The opponent's score will be announced at the same time at the end."

"After completing this step, you can then consider whether to continue or separate completely..."

There are many things involved in this scoring game, which was improvised by Shen Qiongxiao.

It is systematic, logical, and consistent with human nature. It completely quantifies love and may seem too cold and heartless, but this is the naked reality.

Not only is love not blind, it is also very explainable.

This scoring game will enhance the understanding between couples, but if you are not deeply emotional, try not to do it, otherwise it will be easy to cause trouble for no reason...

In the case where both parties are sincere, the best result is, of course, that the total score of both lovers is the same, and the scores of the five parts are roughly similar.

If the total score deviation is too large, it means that both parties have inconsistent perceptions of the relationship. The high and low levels are too obvious and it will not last long.

If the sub-score deviation is too large, it means that the two parties have inconsistent views, or are not from the same class. One or both parties will be more tired when getting along, and there will be great emotional uncertainty and hidden dangers.

Hou Xu kept it in mind and asked: "What about the second suggestion?"

"The second one is not a suggestion. It just explains the facts after you got together. Miss Hu Xueya can focus on it."

Shen Qiongxiao's tone was calm and her eyes were calm.

Hu Xueya was so worried that she even forgot how to cry. She seemed to have the feeling that a little rabbit meets a big tiger and will be killed at any time under the watchful eye of an apex predator.

"You, you said."

Shen Qiongxiao said sincerely: "We have no way of knowing whether your current feelings for Hou Xu are true or false. Even with the score I just mentioned, you can continue to deceive as before. But if you are really sure that you are with him, then It will directly damage the relationship between him and his parents, and indirectly hinder Hou Xu's unfinished studies."

"In other words, when you two get together, it will have a very negative impact on Hou Xu's family relationship and future career."

"And you will definitely not get the benefits you originally envisioned."

Hu Xueya defended in a low voice: "Now I really don't think about getting anything from him..."

Shen Qiongxiao interrupted: "I have never met Hou Xu's parents. I don't know the personalities of my uncle and aunt, or their reaction after learning about this matter. But I guess based on the common thoughts of parents, they must be very prejudiced against you. I will never approve of you. Even if Hou Xu insists on choosing you, my uncle and aunt will bypass him and talk to you directly. The situation at that time will definitely be a hundred times more serious than now!"

"More importantly, I think this should go against your original intention of making amends to Hou Xu for making mistakes."

"What will he gain if you stay with him? Stunted studies, family disputes, conflicts between parents... Do you think this is compensation?"

"If you love someone and being with him will actually harm him, then let him go and live a good life."

This passage has an objective perspective and the stakes are clearly analyzed.

Hu Xueya's face turned from red to white, she seemed stunned and silent, and she was deep in thought.

She was unwilling to do so. She was unwilling to let such a high-quality goal or the opportunity to achieve class leap slip away, nor was she willing to accept the cost of time she had invested previously... But now, she was firmly entrenched by Shen Qiongxiao. poured a basin of ice over it.

Even if Hou Xu forgives himself, will his parents be willing? I'm afraid they will hate themselves even more!

However, Hou Xu has sunk costs against Hu Xuelia, but why does Hu Xueya not have sunk costs against Hou Xu?

What Lu Qing just said; the principle of least interest, Veblen effect, Franklin effect, path dependence, cognitive dissonance, sunk cost, loss aversion effect, Chicconi effect...

There is no shortage of Hu Xuelia, and the feelings are mutual. If she doesn't fall in true love, Hou Xu won't be so entangled.

Hou Xu was also stunned. He might have vaguely thought about the consequences of being with Hu Xueya, but he had never been so straightforward and clear.

At this time, a question arose in his mind; is it worth it?

Is it worth it for Hu Xueya?
To be continued...