"Blaming others is actually evading your own responsibilities and the pain you deserve... Now, it would be great if you could understand and forgive each other."

"Forgiveness is second, self-discipline is... take a positive and proactive attitude, take responsibility, respect facts, maintain balance, delay gratification... You still have to keep working hard."

During this meeting, Gao Yun seemed to understand some of what Li Wenjing said.

If it is based on the fact that the other party already knows his current status, then the general meaning of these words is likely to be this;

You all have your own faults for breaking up, so don't worry about it anymore. Now, you can understand each other, and as an elder, I am very happy.

However, blind forgiveness cannot solve the problem. You have to be self-disciplined. You are very emotionally undisciplined now, which is very bad. In this case, Shen Qiongxiao will certainly not get back together with you. As a man, You must exercise emotional self-discipline, get rid of other women, take the initiative to take responsibility, and get Shen Qiongxiao back!

The words were good words, and Gao Yun also listened to them, the kind that goes in one ear and out the other...

The three days of recording the program, from Wolong in Sichuan Province to Huize in Kunming City in Yunnan Province, a journey of nearly a thousand kilometers, was generally very smooth. Professor Li Wenjing did not make things difficult for him, but only used such euphemistic words from time to time inside and outside the program. Come and wake him up.

He definitely had good intentions, but Gao Yun really couldn't do what the old lady said.

It was too late, it was too late, the relationship between the four girls and him had entered a stable zone. It was impossible for him to abandon all the other girls for Shen Qiongxiao, and he doubted that even if he did, Shen Qiongxiao would A lifetime of happiness with him, and harmony and beauty can't afford a moth?

This is an unknown, so a bird in the bush is worse than four birds in the hand!

Maybe Li Wenjing also noticed that this kid was really a bastard who was determined to do whatever it took... So on the day before Gao Yun and Shen Qiongxiao finished recording the show and the two groups were about to separate, they finally put it to the test. once……

In the evening, Daidaicao Mountain in Huize, Kunming City, with an altitude between 3570 and 4017 meters, the program crew's RV meandered up the mountain road to the top, and Daidaicao Mountain appeared in front of people's eyes.

The mountains are rolling and rolling, vast and magnanimous, broad and soft, vast and deep, empty and full of vitality. The meadows, flowers, creeks, blue sky, sunset, sunset, and sheep form a beautiful and charming picture. .

Everyone was having a picnic and talking at the top of the highest mountain. There was a slight breeze, but it didn't have much impact.

"I recently read a book and saw that an American economist proposed a trilemma..."

Dou Wentao talked freely: "The meaning of this paradox is that under the conditions of an open economy, the independence of the country's monetary policy, the stability of the exchange rate, and the complete liquidity of capital cannot be achieved at the same time. At most, two of them can be satisfied at the same time. goal and give up another goal.”

"Later, I discovered that this paradox can also be applied in life. For example, if you make an investment, you cannot meet the profitability, safety, and liquidity!"

Zhou Yijun answered with a smile: "This reminds me of another example. For example, a job cannot have more money, fewer things to do, and be close to home!"

Everyone laughed, and the atmosphere was still very harmonious. The old lady also smiled and said: "If you want to gain something, you have to lose something. The world itself is not perfect. A few days ago, a little girl asked me on WeChat if I had any The man is handsome, rich, talented, has a high IQ, and has a good sense of humor... Anyway, he mentioned a lot of advantages, and in the end he gave me a special one!"

"Huh? Dedicated?" Shen Qiongxiao and Zhou Yijun couldn't help laughing.

"Yes!" Li Wenjing nodded: "I really don't know how to answer this. Let's not talk about the advantages. Let's apply this three-dimensional paradox. It's difficult to be rich, handsome, and dedicated. It's difficult to have these three points at the same time. accomplish!"

"How do you put this?" Dou Wentao laughed a little self-deprecatingly: "I don't own one, so I don't know much about it... Ayun, I think you should be..."

Li Wenjing said first: "Don't tell me, I was chatting with the little girl, and finally she said to me, I found it. Only Gao Yun meets the criteria. Although I have changed many girlfriends, no girlfriend said He is not good, which shows that he is very single-minded when he is in love!"

"Hahaha!"

There was laughter again, Shen Qiongxiao was playful and joking, Gao Yun was natural and not shy, and just smiled lightly: "This girl obviously doesn't know me well."

…

The chat was almost done, and the recording was over. Dou Wentao asked everyone to go for a walk, take a look at the beautiful scenery, and then return in half an hour. Gao Yungang wanted to take Shen Qiongxiao to take a photo together, after all, they will return to the capital after recording this time. , but was stopped by Li Wenjing...

"Xiaoyun stays, Qiongxiao, you can play by yourself."

"Ah." Shen Qiongxiao was stunned for a moment: "There is something going on in the company. I have to make a call to deal with it."

"Well, you go and fight in the car, we can chat outside and take a look at the scenery."

The old lady looked at Gao Yun, who sighed inwardly and could only sit down with her...

What is supposed to come has finally come, the side interrogation is over, and the trial is here?!

Although the surrounding scenery was beautiful, Gao Yun had seen enough and was a little nervous.

"Sit down and let's chat casually."

"Hey." Gao Yun poured tea respectfully: "What do you want to talk about?"

"Don't pretend to be confused like me!"

Li Wenjing said calmly: "Qiong Xiao has already acquiesced, and I also tactfully admitted it just now. Let's get straight to the point and save time."

That's right, there was no direct evidence or witnesses, so I was immediately convicted...

Gao Yun did not refute, he lowered his eyebrows and said: "You say it, you say it."

Li Wenjing thought for a while and said: "Qiong Xiao is the child I watched grow up. Her parents don't understand your current situation. If I understand, then I have to take care of it. If you think I am troublesome, then I You have to tell her parents directly and let them take care of it."

Good guy, this means that if private mediation fails, you will have to sue and go to court...

Gao Yun smiled helplessly: "Professor Li, I respect you, I respect you especially. You are qualified to ask about this matter. If you want to say anything, just say it."

The central idea of ​​this conversation is consistent with Li Wenjing's previous euphemistic hints, but it is more direct and can be said to be explicit. The core idea is that he will not allow his apprentice to be wronged.

At the same time, Li Wenjing also gave Gao Yun two choices.

"Either you and Qiong Xiao become good friends, stop pestering her, let her go, and let her live her own life. Or, you get rid of other women, the prodigal son comes back to Qiong Xiao, and you two continue to fall in love, and then get married and live your life. .I hope you take the second path, because I can see that you two still have a very deep relationship. There are very few relationships in the world that can reach this level. I have never seen many in my life. ! It’s a pity to separate like this.”

"..." Gao Yun said nothing.

Li Wenjing said sincerely: "Xiaoyun, I really appreciate you. You are definitely a good boy. I feel that your current emotional state is not what you want. It is true that there are more temptations outside, and girls are jumping on you.

Shang Qiongxiao has caused some harm to you. You half-pushed and half-didn’t make it like this... But you have to be considerate of Qiongxiao and think from her perspective. The previous family atmosphere had a great impact on her. Now she has admitted her mistake, which is very

Regretful, don't look at what she said, but she actually regretted it so much that her intestines were blue! And since you still love her and have forgiven her, how can you still bear to hurt her? "

Gao Yun was puzzled: "No, what behavior of mine hurt her?"

Li Wenjing said slowly: "Now you want to use her feelings for you to drag Qiong Xiao into an emotional state that is contrary to human ethics and social morality. This is the greatest harm to her!"

"Even if you succeed, you have achieved your wish and are happy. What about her? Can you understand her pain and suffering?"

Li Wenjing's tone was still very calm: "You don't realize it, or you don't think about her at all, you only care about yourself. If I say something you don't like to hear, if you really want to do this, you don't love Qiong Xiao, but

It is extremely possessive, and love is not like this. Real love will make the other person feel comfortable, and will not force the other person or make the other person feel wronged. Love is a kind of giving and a kind of tolerance. If you are half-hearted, you will not feel wronged.

Not letting go of Qiong Xiao is quite unmanly. This is not something your character can do..."

Condemn, begin to condemn!

The old lady tried to make Gao Yun feel uneasy about his conscience, so that he could return to the right path and reconcile with Shen Qiongxiao...

But if Mr. Gao dares to play like this, he naturally has a set of fallacies to support himself.

He has read many philosophy, psychology and other books, and has talked about many love practices. According to the system evaluation, his love skills are already at the authoritative level. Regarding love, Gao Yun has his own highly self-consistent logical system.

If there is a debate on the theme of 'odd and even is better/multiple and even is better', Gao Yun is confident that he can win regardless of whether he is pro or con or who his opponent is!

Therefore, he resolutely does not allow others to attack his view of love, and he is not even accustomed to the system, let alone Li Wenjing?

"There is more than one form of love. I don't agree with your simple definition of love."

Gao Yun retorted calmly: "Love is selfless dedication, love is lowering your posture, love is watching and protecting, love is tolerance and forgiveness, but love is also possession and control...

"I personally believe that the deepest emotion between people is four words, indispensable. Yes, I love Shen Qiongxiao. I can stay away from her, but I can't live without her! Because of this love, you

How can I let her go?"

"I love her not because I need her, but because I need her because I love her!"

"..."

The old lady frowned, and Gao Yun changed the topic: "However, I will restrain my possessiveness. I will be good to Shen Qiongxiao and always be good to her, so that she feels that I am worthy of staying and will stay for me voluntarily. Only then will I

She has the right to possess her. In other words, she is willing to let me possess her, and I am willing to let her possess her. This kind of possession is happy for both of us."

"If this kind of possession is based on Shen Qiongxiao's reluctance and pain, I think this kind of possession is meaningless. Therefore, I ensure that she stays by loving her and treating her well, and the decision-making power lies with her.

She, she has the right to decide what is good for her and what is not good for her. I will not impose what I think is good on her. The rest is her own choice whether to stay. If she chooses to leave, I think this

It was the result of my failure to fulfill my responsibilities... In short, I used to love her to possess her, rather than loving her in a possessive way."

Don’t be afraid of gangsters, just be afraid that gangsters are educated!

Li Wenjing now deeply understood the meaning of these words. She stared at Gao Yun for a long time with calm eyes, and then said: "How are you getting along with the women you have now?"

Gao Yun hesitated for a moment, but finally said: "Very good, they have become friends now, and they all have a tacit understanding. They still chat every day, and we get along very well?"

"What should we do in the future? What do you say to their parents? What do you say to your own family?"

Gao Yun said cautiously: "Money, money will solve 90% of the problems, and the remaining 10% requires more money. I am not talking about profit-seeking, using money to measure something, materialize something, and make up for something. I

There is absolutely no such idea. True love is a scarcer resource than money. Most people who say that material things are more important than love have never experienced beautiful love. And I use money to fulfill part of my responsibilities.

Part of my commitment to parents."

"After all, the real world is made up of three major elements: matter, energy, and information. My first priority is to provide them with enough materials to help them fulfill their physiological and safety needs."

"..."

Li Wenjing just listened quietly, while Gao Yun kept talking: "Secondly, I will also try my best to devote energy representing time to meet their social and respect needs."

"Finally, the message representing love may be somewhat evenly distributed, but I have discipline, concentration, patience and other necessary conditions for practicing the art of love. I have enough courage. My belief in love is an extremely firm belief rooted in my mind.

.So, I am confident that I can give them enough love, respond to their emotional needs in a timely manner, and they can also love each other and support each other."

"They can find the certainty of their own life subjects from me and each other, and help each other achieve self-realization. I can also find my own existence and certainty from each of them as independent individuals. This is what I do through

The way of giving emotions builds a symbiotic bond between subjects..."

Li Wenjing leaned slightly on her right side and listened to Gao Yun's speech. Then she said: "You still haven't answered my question directly. How should you explain it to the parents on both sides? With your current reputation, how should you explain it to the public?"
To be continued...